How to Conquer Fear of the Unknown


Does uncertainty in life cause you to ask yourself, “Will I be able to handle or cope with this?” and undermine your self-esteem, confidence and thus your success?

Uncertainty is part of life. Worrying about what can or will happen will not prevent something from happening. So how do we overcome the fear of the unknown?

• Take control of your emotions. – Come from a place of power rather than from a victim state of helplessness and hopelessness.

• Be Proactive. – Ask yourself, “What can I do? What options do I have?” Doing what one can do allows one to be able to let go of feeling helpless. Taking action that is under one’s control, that one is able to do, helps one to feel confident and capable.

• Give yourself positive self-talk. – Develop statements around what you can do and create new self-talk to move forward. Doing so is focusing on the known. Doing what you know you can do, the known, builds confidence. It gives hope helping to reduce feelings of helplessness.

• Set goals. – You want to set goals each day and focus on taking the needed action to achieve them. When we are busy being productive, our mind does not have time to worry.

• Forgive your mistakes. – If something does not work out, look at what you did right and what you can learn to have success. Do not beat up on yourself. Everyone makes mistakes at one time or another.

Overcome uncertainty and build the self-esteem and confidence to gain your desired success.

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019.

Achieve Your Goals with High Self-Esteem

People who have high self-esteem feel they have value. Thus, they feel they are worthy and deserving of the best life has to offer. Because they believe in their strengths and abilities, they set goals based on them. Thus, they feel capable and confident. They trust themselves to reach their goals.

Because they feel worthy, they make themselves as important as another. They say “Yes” and “No” to say YES to themselves. Thus, they ask for what they want and are willing to take right action to reach their goal. They take calculated risks to reach their goals.

Since they feel deserving, they acknowledge small and big successes. They give themselves positive self-statements to stay motivated and confident. When a person feels confident, he feels capable. Thus, he tackles difficult tasks to reach his goal.

By choosing to live with awareness, they know their areas of potential. Thus, they know how to be their best self and to achieve greater success. Because they believe in their strengths and abilities, they believe they can learn new things. They are willing to act to improve their skills and overcome limitations to reach goals.

People who have healthy self-esteem choose to resolve their own challenges and problems. When a person lets another person rescue him, she or he sets himself up to become a victim.

They focus on what they can influence or change for the better, not the things they have no real control over. They look for workable strategies and solutions. Doing so creates a positive energy that acts as a catalyst for greater personal power and action. Thus, their concerns lose their power or disappear. Hence, they take right action to achieve their goals. At the same time, their belief in their skills makes others other believe in them and their abilities. They gain respect from others and thus greater self-respect.

In addition, they take control of their emotions. Thus, they respond rather than react to situations, which helps them to gain influence. They affirm themselves to avoid internalizing negatives. In doing so, they reduce or prevent conflict and thus manage stress and protect their dignity.

Then, people with self-esteem know how to use their strengths and abilities. They know how to contribute to the betterment of society and to be part of the world. Thus, they make themselves important to society and the world.


©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019. 

Apply these 8 Steps and Gain Peace of Mind


When we have peace of mind, we are not in an adversarial relationship with our lives and ourselves. When we can know and feel we can handle our daily life free of anxiety, we are confident. Thus, we like and respect ourselves.
Here are the steps that lead to peace of mind:
Focus on  Your Goals – Begin your day by focusing on your goals. Choose to take the positive actions that will bring you closer to your goal.
Live in the Present – If you give your attention to doing your best,  you make today the best day ever.  Generate positive thoughts and put images of the past behind you. After doing this daily for a period-of-time, the past remains there.
Release Negative Self-talk- Reframe a self-defeating thought with a self-promoting thought.  Choose thoughts that help you feel worthy, deserving, appreciative, capable, and happy.
Assert Yourself – Approach your goals with an energetic, enthusiastic boldness and determination. Yet, avoid being  confrontational and belligerent. To be assertive, you meet your needs while respecting the rights and needs of others.  The intent of assertiveness is to lead to a win-win.  Assertiveness does not step on the toes of others to meet one’s needs.
Overcome Indecision – Set goals based on your previous successes. When you  do,  you believe in your abilities.  You have references.  Thus, you feel capable and confident. You trust your abilities to achieve success. Thus, you decide to act to reach your goals.
Forgive yourself – To do so, let go of feelings of inferiority.  This means you forgive your mistakes.  You want to forgive on a daily basis. Doing so allows you to let go of daily irritation.   Feeling irritated on a continuous basis becomes self-destructive.  When you forgive yourself for past thoughts, actions, and mistakes, you live in the present.
Let Go of Doubt – Acknowledge your past successes.  Identify the strengths and abilities that helped you to achieve them. When you do, you know that you own your strengths. Thus, you believe in your abilities and yourself.
Accept What Is – Focus on what you can control. If something does not work out, look at what you can do to make it better.
To have peace of mind, make the decision now to take the needed action that will give it to you.


©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019

7 Reasons to Become Self-Reliant


Self-Reliance is knowing you can stand on your own two feet. It is listening to your inner guidance or nudges, etc., rather than to others or external factors. When you are self-reliant, you believe you can do what you need to become successful and take care of yourself. Then, self-reliance is an essential component for developing high self-esteem and confidence.

With self-reliance, you:

Relinquish the need for approval – You know you have the strengths and abilities to achieve success. Therefore, you pursue your goals and expectations, not those of others. Now, you know you no longer need the approval of others.

Feel motivated –You feel capable or “feel enough.” Therefore, you do not need outside stimulation.

Overcome procrastination – Because you trust your abilities, you have the confidence to tackle new and different tasks. You begin.

Handle situations – When problems occur, you are able to look at each situation as it actually is — the issues, the facts, the conditions, the consequences, etc., not as you would like them to be, to find the right, positive, workable solution.

Release worry – Since you trust your strengths and abilities, you trust yourself to meet any challenges that might occur on your path to success. Thus, you feel in control.

Let go of feelings of helplessness – You no longer have to depend on others or on what they are willing to do and when they are willing to do it.

Protect yourself – Inner-directed, you know you can take care of yourself. Thus, you take responsibility for your inspiration, emotions and reactions, success, livelihood, peace and happiness. When you do, no one lets you down.

Gain self-reliance and increase your self-esteem and self-confidence and thus your success, peace, and happiness.

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019. 

Five Strategies for Successful Goal Achievement


Would you like to reach your goals in life and thus your success, do so easier and with less stress, and enhance your self-esteem and confidence?

Here are five strategies for successful goal achievement:

Set Realistic Goals – Develop goals based on your previous successes. You know you have the strengths and abilities to reach your goals. You have the inspiration and confidence to act to reach your goals.

Stay on Target – If thoughts of doubt stop your momentum, quickly recall previous successes to remind you of your “I can attitude,” so you continue to pursue your goal.

Live in the Present– A person cannot seize the opportunities of the present to reach their goal living in the past. So forgive your mistakes and let go of guilt. Only briefly visit the past to recall your successes and imagine yourself having similar successes in the present.

Affirm Yourself – Create self-talk around your strengths to reinforce your value to you. When you do, you feel you deserve success. Moreover, doing so helps you to avoid criticizing yourself around your weaknesses. In addition, this positive self-talk will inspire you to action, to focus on the good, to meet challenges that present themselves with confidence, and to expect positive results.

Handle Situations – If an obstacle presents itself, focus on your past successes. Remember challenges that you have overcome and trust your strengths, talents, skills, and inner wisdom to guide you to the right solutions to accomplish your goals. Using problem-solving strategies and asking questions provide structure and guidance to facilitate the process.

If you consider using these proven strategies today, you can build high self-esteem and confidence and thus increase your chance for success.

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019

Self-Esteem: The Crucial Factor to Success

Self-esteem is the reputation one holds with oneself. It is appreciating one’s worth and feeling satisfied with who you are.

In addition, it is the main factor that influences one’s success. Maslow’s hierarchy of basic human needs and motivations indicates that it is essential that people gain self-esteem to be their best self, to reach their full potential, and achieve at the highest level.

Moreover, self-esteem is important to a person’s emotional well-being and happiness. People with high self-esteem accurately assess their abilities and acknowledge their strengths and areas for improvement to themselves.  Accurately acknowledging their strengths allows them to put their weaknesses in proper perspective to accept themselves. They feel “enough! They do not internalize negative feedback they receive in life. Therefore, it does not alter the way they feel about themselves. They are able to give themselves the understanding and support they gives a friend. Hence, they show themselves respect.

People who have high self-esteem bounce back from adversity easier. They realize they are only human. Therefore, they accept that they ae not perfect, and make mistakes. Hence, they are able to forgive themselves and let go of guilt rather than keeping it inside. They affirm their good points and focus on their strengths and what they learned to move forward in life.

Low self-esteem can lead to anxiety, stress and depression. It create problems between friends, spouses and within families and hinder performance. It leads to drug and alcohol abuse. These can lead to even lower self-esteem and inappropriate, even violent, behavior.

If you build self-esteem, you will gain greater success, freedom from stress, and anxiety, and thus improve your quality of life.

Maslow, A.H. (1987) Motivation and Personality (3rd ed.) New York: Harper & Row

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019.