Achieve Your Goals with High Self-Esteem

People who have high self-esteem feel they have value. Thus, they feel they are worthy and deserving of the best life has to offer. Because they believe in their strengths and abilities, they set goals based on them. Thus, they feel capable and confident. They trust themselves to reach their goals.

Because they feel worthy, they make themselves as important as another. They say “Yes” and “No” to say YES to themselves. Thus, they ask for what they want and are willing to take right action to reach their goal. They take calculated risks to reach their goals.

Since they feel deserving, they acknowledge small and big successes. They give themselves positive self-statements to stay motivated and confident. When a person feels confident, he feels capable. Thus, he tackles difficult tasks to reach his goal.

By choosing to live with awareness, they know their areas of potential. Thus, they know how to be their best self and to achieve greater success. Because they believe in their strengths and abilities, they believe they can learn new things. They are willing to act to improve their skills and overcome limitations to reach goals.

People who have healthy self-esteem choose to resolve their own challenges and problems. When a person lets another person rescue him, she or he sets himself up to become a victim.

They focus on what they can influence or change for the better, not the things they have no real control over. They look for workable strategies and solutions. Doing so creates a positive energy that acts as a catalyst for greater personal power and action. Thus, their concerns lose their power or disappear. Hence, they take right action to achieve their goals. At the same time, their belief in their skills makes others other believe in them and their abilities. They gain respect from others and thus greater self-respect.

In addition, they take control of their emotions. Thus, they respond rather than react to situations, which helps them to gain influence. They affirm themselves to avoid internalizing negatives. In doing so, they reduce or prevent conflict and thus manage stress and protect their dignity.

Then, people with self-esteem know how to use their strengths and abilities. They know how to contribute to the betterment of society and to be part of the world. Thus, they make themselves important to society and the world.


©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019. 

Want to Release Comparison


Comparing ourselves to others is  self-defeating. It cause us not to see our self as a separate person with individual strengths and abilities. Then, comparing our self to another person leads us to think that the other person has no faults and that we should be like that person. Therefore, this causes one ot feel less than and leads to self-criticism, which further undermines self-esteem.

We learned comparison from authority figures growing up, beginning with our parents comparing us with our siblings. Then, when we started to school, teachers expanded it comparing us to other students. Some may have continued to compare us with our siblings. We received messages such as, “Why don’t you?, Why can’t you?, or Why aren’t you?” Constant and continuous comparison led us to repeat the messages and believe them. Therefore, we habit of comparing ourselves with others.

Are any two people alike? Do identical twins have the same physical characteristics or personality? Each of us is born with certain natural abilities, and thus we perform tasks that call for them easier.

Then, if you discover you are comparing yourself with another person, you want to challenge the comparison by asking yourself, “Does the person I am comparing myself to have more training or experience than I do?” To compare a person who has less training or experience with another person who has more training or experience is unfair.

In addition, ask yourself, “Is this person performing to his potential? Am I doing my best”? Do you recall a fellow student in school growing up who the teachers considered gifted? Did he achieve at her or his potential? Did he go out in the world and perform at his potential? If a person is doing his best, although he has not reached his potential, he has excelled at a degree, which the other person has not.  Then if you are doing your best, why not give yourself credit for what you have achieved and are achieving?  

To stop comparing yourself to others, say to yourself, “I am not her or him. This is who I am.” Challenging the comparison separates you, where you begin and end, from the other person. Doing this demands that you know your strengths and abilities and your weaknesses.    

When we know we possess certain strengths and abilities and that they helped us to meet our goal(s), we feel worthwhile. When we realize the strength or versatility of our skills and abilities, we know what makes us unique and valuable to the world. There is no reason for comparison. 

If you would like to empower yourself and feel better about yourself, act to eliminate comparison.

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019.

Increase Self-Respect: Release 3 things

To respect ourselves we must find the best within us and live with our best selves. Then we want to overcome the barriers to self-respect, so that we can begin to give ourselves the respect we desire.

Fear of the Unknown – Uncertainty is present in our lives every day. The weather changes. Changes occur at work — Lay-offs, mergers, bosses, and technology. These changes lead to a different way of doing things in the workplace. Society changes. Fear of uncertainty or the unknown can lead to withdrawal, which keeps us from pursuing our dreams, interacting with others and making friends, and thus living a full life. On the other hand, learning to live with uncertainty helps us to develop strength and resilience and become resourceful. Then we are able to go out into the world to use our talents to pursue our goals and dream and contribute to the good of society. When we see our value to the world, we feel worthwhile. Thus, we have greater self-respect.

Resentfulness – It is a combination of envy, revenge, pouting, and temper. When we feel bitterness toward others, they reply in like manner. If they become frustrated and/or angry with us because our feeling of bitterness led to their reaction, they may lash out at us for spreading negative feelings. The resentment grows. Moreover, resentment intensifies and festers within a person and becomes self-destructive. A resentful person is not open to the view of others, which affects relationships and one’s influence with others; fears competition, which causes the person to withdraw from life; and feels stressed.

Boredom – It comes from not knowing what to do with oneself. It is feeling that something is missing in one’s life. Some people may think the void in their lives comes from not having children, not getting married, not living in a different area, or not having a certain positon or degree of career success. If you wish you were someone else, you are contributing to your feeling of emptiness. It is our responsibility to give meaning and purpose to our own life. Not to do so is rejecting yourself. Therefore, you want to know yourself, your strengths, weaknesses, and qualities or characteristics that make you unique and accept yourself. Then, set goals based on them and pursue them.

Begin to eliminate these barriers today. To do so is to pave the way to give yourself the respect you deserve.

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019. 

Increase Self-Awareness: Increase Self-Esteem


Self-awareness allows us to know what makes us feel good and what does not.  When we know this, we can choose thoughts to “feel enough,” and to like ourselves. To develop greater self-awareness, you want to:

Notice Your Feelings – Your awareness of your feelings in your body – frustration, guilt, anxiety, disappointment, anger, depression, etc., in different situations– signal you to listen to what you are saying to yourself.

Listen to Your Self-talk – When you notice the negative feelings in your body, you want to take the time to listen your self-talk. Then you want to reject or reframe any negative statements. You have the information to guide you in creating self-affirming statements.

Ask Yourself Questions – The answers to the questions you ask yourself  provide you with information to develop new self-talk. Moreover, they can inspire you to create and say positive statements to yourself regularly.

Makes Conscious Choices – Your awareness of negative feelings and messages provide you with the opportunity to choose your self-talk. You can choose statements to feel worthwhile and capable, handle stress, overcome mistakes, fear, worry, etc. and forgive yourself.

To choose self-talk and to make it a habit to feel good about yourself requires you to make a choice to develop self-awareness, know yourself. I hope you will decide to do so today.

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019