‘WHY CHOOSE HIGH SELF-ESTEEM’

Many people feel comfortable in some situations and uncomfortable in others. Do you feel good about yourself wherever you are and with whomever you come in contact? Or are there some situations where you wish you felt more confident? If your answer to the latter is yes, you want to read ‘Why Choose High Self-Esteem,’ the first chapter of my book, Choose to Have High Self-Esteem.

This chapter on ‘Why Choose High Self-Esteem’  explains why self-esteem is important to all areas of one’s life. In addition, it gives references and an explanation that will help people give themselves permission to accept that it is okay, not wrong, to have healthy self-esteem.

Personal and Professional Benefits-Quotes from various self-esteem authorities explain and reinforce to us the reasons one wants to develop high self-esteem for both personal and professional success. Norman Vincent Peale and Robert Collier address a particular characteristic that people who choose high self-esteem possess and its role in achieving success. Clement Stone speaks of self-esteem in regard to communication. In addition, Bonaro Overstreet addresses its value in conflict. Moreover, Nathaniel Branden and Les Giblin specifically speaks to how it affects one personal and professional success. Sidney Simon is specific in how he it affects one’s well-being.

Benefits illustrated-Explained in ‘Why Choose High Self-Esteem’ is how people with high self-esteem versus how people with low self-esteem feel about themselves and function. Examples include entering the work force, pursuing a dream or goal(s), performing a task and making decisions. In addition, it discusses how self-esteem helps one to take care of oneself and protect one’s esteem and dignity. Moreover, described is how it affects interaction in both one’s personal and professional life.

I might add that “Why Choose High Self-Esteem’ provides many examples of different situations where high self-esteem could change someone’s life for the better. These examples can help you to identify how greater self-esteem could improve your life.

To read how Choose to Have High Self-Esteem can help you to gain greater self-esteem and confidence, click here.

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“Rise Up to Yourself”

When you were a child growing up, did your mother or father wake you up by gently shaking you and saying, “Rise up and Shine.”? If so, you probably knew that meant to pay attention to your teacher today, make good grades, and don’t get in trouble. So, you learned it meant, “Do your best.”

“Rise Up to Yourself,” the first chapter in my book, Rise Up to Yourself, Greater Success Awaits tells how being your best self includes or involves more than just using your training in a subject to do your job. Second, it describes how developing and using soft skills will help you to be your best self and thus enhance your self-esteem, your personal and professional success and your life. Third, it tells you what you want to look for as you read each chapter, so you can apply the information on a daily basis to feel good about yourself and to achieve your desired success.

I wrote this book because I, like many others I have met in life, wished I had been aware of these non-technical skills. Awareness of their importance and power and/or how to use them effectively earlier in life, I believe , would have helped me to avoid some mistakes. Thus, I feel I would have achieved more or greater success in life.

If you would like to see a list of the chapter topics and read more about how they will help you gain greater self-esteem and confidence, success and happiness, click here.

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Empower Yourself with Self Talk

What are you telling yourself right now? Our self-talk, verbally or silently, empowers or disempowers us and thus builds or undermines one’s self-esteem and self-confidence.  How does it do that? It determines our:

Feelings – What we tell ourselves, about daily situations influence how we feel — sad or happy, worried or anxious, frustrated, or fearful.  The thoughts we hold about our value as a person affect whether we feel we are worthy or worthwhile and deserving.

Belief in our abilities – How we choose to view our accomplishments determines how successful we feel. If we think our strengths can benefit us, we feel capable. Thus, we “feel enough.”

Decision-making and choices – The way we define ourselves depends upon who or what we think we are. What we think or believe about our abilities determines whether or not we make the decision to set and pursue goals and what goal(s) we decide to set and action(s) we choose to take. Whether we decide to forgive our mistakes depends on whether we live in the present and focus our thoughts on our successes, what we did right or what worked out, and our goals.

Motivation – If we give ourselves encouraging and positive messages about our strengths and abilities that cause us to believe in our abilities and thus ourselves, we feel inspired to take action.

Assertion – When we feel worthwhile, we feel we deserve success. When we believe in our abilities, we trust ourselves to pursue our goals. We have developed an “I can” attitude. Thus, we take action to meet our goals.

Risk-taking – Challenges often occur that require us to do something differently if we want to reach our goal to achieve our desired success. If we feel deserving of success and believe in our strengths, we trust them to overcome the challenges to reach our goal and gain success.

If you want greater self-esteem and self-confidence, you want to decide to choose the thoughts that you need to think on a daily basis to do so.

Related resources:

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Want Success in 2018

What do you want in your life in 2018 or what would success look like to you? A promotion. pay increase, a house, or life partner? Healing? Or Less stress, anxiety, conflict?

Maybe you have a goal from your childhood that you set aside because you felt, or someone told you, it was beyond your reach. Or, you may want closure to a situation.

Nathaniel Branden, an American psychotherapist and writer on self -esteem, said, “Tell me how a person judges his or her self-esteem, and I will tell you how that person operates at work, in sex, in parenting, in every important aspect of existence-and how high he or she is likely to rise. The reputation you have with yourself -your self-esteem-is the single most important fact of a fulfilling life.” 1

Then, regardless of our goal, self-esteem is the vital to success.  In fact, Zig, Ziglar, author, salesman, and motivational speaker,  said, “The strongest factor for success is self-esteem: Believing you can do it, believing you deserve it and believing you will get it.”2

How you can enhance your believability in yourself is to:

Believe ‘I deserve this – Each of us has the right to meet our needs and have them met.  Everyone is important and one person’s needs is as important as the next.  A person’s needs are as important to him as the next person’s is to him. When we know that we have value, we feel worthwhile.  Then it is important to accept your strengths — When we accept that we have strengths, we know our value.  Moreover, when we do, we believe that we are deserving of meeting our needs and of success.

Believe ‘I can do this’ –  When we acknowledge our previous accomplishments and the strengths that helped us to achieve them, we feel competent.  In addition, when we know and feel that we can count on our strengths to be there for us when we need them, we feel capable.  We trust ourselves; we feel confident.  Then, we are willing to act to achieve our goal.

What are your strengths? How do you feel these strengths have helped you gain success personally and/or professionally?  What particular success comes to mind? What strengths do you feel helped you achieve this success.

Now, as you think of a goal you would like to achieve in 2018, picture yourself successfully reaching this goal. Allow yourself time to do this. Seeing yourself achieving this goal will help you to believe it is possible and, it will enhance your belief in your ability and in yourself.  Therefore, it will strengthen your motivation to take action to reach your goal.

Believe ‘I will get it’–  You set your goals based on your strengths and abilities, not those of others.  You feel confident that you can achieve your desired success. You know your goal is attainable based on your previous accomplishments and success. Now, you act to reach your goal(s) to have the success you so want.

If you would like help in building self-esteem and confidence and in reaching your goal in 2018, please free to contact me at info@lifecoachwehunt.com.

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Want to Live in the Present and Increase Your Self-Esteem and Gain Success

Presence is a catalyst for task accomplishment and creating success. When we live in the present, we give our full attention to and engage in what is going on in the now. Doing so promotes task or goal achievement and successful outcomes. Each time we complete a task, we gain confidence in our capability and thus in our ability to reach our goals. We like ourselves. To create greater success, we want to take a closer look at the relationship between presence and our success and self-esteem. 

When we focus on the job that needs doing, we know what it involves. We know what we need to do first to complete the task and to do so successfully. Some tasks require doing the steps of the task sequentially for successful completion. For example, using a recipe to make a cake from scratch usually has directions that call for specific ingredients and adding them in a certain sequence since doing so affects the outcome of the cake most of the time. On the other hand, if a task does not require a step-by-step process for completing it, some people perform the part of the task they consider the easiest to do first. Some other people do the difficult part of the task first to get it out of the way. Thus, we know how to begin, and we start.

However, if a person focuses on future challenges that might occur along the way, what ifs or what could go wrong, the person hinders, and possibly keeps, her or himself from beginning the task. The same is true if a person worries about the outcome or end results. If one does, one undermines one’s confidence and task or goal achievement and thus success.

When we fully engage in the step of the task at hand, we are less likely to make mistakes. We accomplish the task successfully and say to ourselves “Yes” or “Good job.” Thus, we feel capable of performing the next step in the task. Each step we complete leads to the next step. With the successful completion of each step, the more capable and confident we feel. Therefore, our self-esteem grows.

In addition, presence helps us to know how to contribute to a conversation or work discussion or how to introduce our ideas to have them considered. When we give our attention to what others say, verbally and nonverbally, not what we want to say, we are better able to understand the beliefs a person holds and the intensity of the belief or conviction. How receptive or whether others are receptive to what we have to say depends on the strength of their conviction. Therefore, we know if we want to share our viewpoint or idea and how to share it to have it better understood. The more we can present our viewpoint or idea from their frame of reference the more likely we will have it considered and the less conflict we will incur. The earlier we have this awareness the better. Thus, presence helps us to communicate effectively to gain influence and build relationships.

If you want to complete tasks successfully with ease and communicate to gain influence to experience greater success, you want to practice living in the moment beginning today. If you do, you will also experience greater self-esteem.

Related resources:

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Release Feelings of Inadequacy

We want to know and feel we can reach our desired goals, express our opinions, and handle criticism, conflict and difficult situations to feel okay.

The negative feedback, verbal or nonverbal, one receives from parents, teachers, and peers, growing up sets the stage for feelings of adequacy. If a person receives put-downs or negative nonverbal, when she or he asks questions or gives his opinion, more than likely, the person experiences self-doubt. Thus, he experiences feelings of “not enough” and “not good enough.” Whether the person stops participating or speaking up in groups depends on the severity and consistency of the put-downs.

However, each of us has the power and right of choice and the freedom to choose. Then, each of us can choose our thoughts. Therefore, we do not have to accept the opinions of others. Choosing what we like and dislike – the food we eat, the style and color of clothes we wear, and movies we watch – helps one to release feelings of inadequacy and feel more capable.

Because we have the ability to think for ourselves, we can look at the tasks we perform each day in our personal and professional lives and what skills and abilities it takes to do them. Therefore, we can choose how we view our accomplishments and thus our qualities, strengths, abilities, and weaknesses based our assessment. Hence, we can decide what we believe about our capability and release feelings of inadequacy.

Since we can think and decide for ourselves, we can choose what task to pursue and how to pursue it to get the best results. We can decide what task to perform first to feel confident and to reach a goal on time

We can choose how we handle situations, whether we react or respond. If one reacts, one allows emotions to control one’s life. When you choose to respond, you put you in control of yourself and your emotions. You protect your dignity. You have taken care of yourself. Thus, you feel competent.

Think of the tasks you do at home and at work and the skills you use to complete them successfully. Be sure to include intangible skills such as determination and patience, which most tasks require. Consider how the things you do meet your daily, wants, and goals and how they benefit others. When you do this, you acknowledge the value of what you do, and thus realize your capability.  Thus, you release feelings of inadequacy.

Ask yourself, “What skills do I use doing these things that I can use to do something new or different?” If you expand the use of your skills to new and different tasks and situations, you strengthen your skills and develop new skills. Thus, you affirm your capability to you. You feel more capable and confident.

Moreover, we have the ability to choose to listen to our gut or inner voice. When you do, you know that you know. You know what you can do, not what others have told you that you can and cannot do. When you follow your inner wisdom, you trust yourself. You do not second guess yourself. Therefore, you feel enough.

Related resources:

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8 Strategies to Assert Yourself Confidently

Assertiveness is a powerful form of communication that you can you can use to take care of yourself while building positive relationships. If you use it correctly and appropriately on a regular basis, you build self-esteem to the degree that you:

Express your needs and wants – If you ask for what you want using assertiveness, you are telling the other person, “I count” or “I matter.” Doing so is giving yourself respect. If the other person honors your request, you enhance your self-respect even more.

Stand up for yourself – When you stand up for yourself, you are protecting your rights or from taking advantage of you. Each of us has rights. Standing up for your rights is respecting yourself and showing others how to respect you.

Assert decisions – Taking action(s) to meet your needs and wants, reach your goals, and stand up for yourself is taking responsibility for your life.

Validate yourself – When you state your needs, wants, feelings, opinions, thoughts, or beliefs, and concerns to others, you affirm who you are.

Take control of your emotions – Express your needs and wants and say No to get them met and live by your values. Doing so prevents you from feelings of frustration, stress, bitterness, resentment, anger, etc., which leads to aggressive or negative behavior. You gain respect and gain or increase self-respect.

Protect yourself – Saying No to keep someone from taking advantage of you or rescuing you prevents you from becoming a victim. Expressing your strengths to affirm your competence in the workplace can protect your job. With sincere and honest words, you can handle criticism effectively to disarm it and affirm yourself to avoid internalizing the criticism. Using communication to own your feelings and perspectives, not to transfer or impose them on others, prevents external conflict and the associated stress. Expressing your needs, opinions, feelings, rights, etc. and saying no to meet your needs keeps you from beating up on yourself for not doing so.

Be true to yourself– Saying “Yes” and “No” to meet your needs and wants and live by your values is saying YES to yourself. It is living with integrity.

Bring balance to your life – Saying “Yes” and “No” brings stability and peace to your life.

If you begin asserting yourself today, you will notice that you feel better about yourself.

Related resources:

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7 Reasons to Become Self-Reliant

Self-Reliance is knowing you can stand on your own two feet. It is listening to your inner guidance or nudges, etc., rather than to others or external factors. When you are self-reliant, you believe you can do what you need to become successful and take care of yourself. Then, self-reliance is an essential component for developing high self-esteem and confidence.

With self-reliance, you:

Relinquish the need for approval – You know you have the strengths and abilities to achieve success. Therefore, you pursue your goals and expectations, not those of others. Now, you know you no longer need the approval of others.

Feel motivated –You feel capable or “feel enough.” Therefore, you do not need outside stimulation.

Overcome procrastination – Because you trust your abilities, you have the confidence to tackle new and different tasks. You begin.

Handle situations – When problems occur, you are able to look at each situation as it actually is — the issues, the facts, the conditions, the consequences, etc., not as you would like them to be, to find the right, positive, workable solution.

Release worry – Since you trust your strengths and abilities, you trust yourself to meet any challenges that might occur on your path to success. Thus, you feel in control.

Let go of feelings of helplessness – You no longer have to depend on others or on what they are willing to do and when they are willing to do it.

Protect yourself – Inner-directed, you know you can take care of yourself. Thus, you take responsibility for your inspiration, emotions and reactions, success, livelihood, peace and happiness. When you do, no one lets you down.

Gain self-reliance and increase your self-esteem and self-confidence and thus your success, peace, and happiness.

Related resources:

Books:  Choose to Have Self High Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                             Rise Up to Yourself Greater Success Awaits   https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                         Achieve Success with Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/

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Five Strategies for Successful Goal Achievement

Would you like to reach your goals in life and thus your success, do so easier and with less stress, and enhance your self-esteem and confidence?

Here are five strategies for successful goal achievement:

Set Realistic Goals – Develop goals based on your previous successes. You know you have the strengths and abilities to reach your goals. You have the inspiration and confidence to act to reach your goals.

Stay on Target – If thoughts of doubt stop your momentum, quickly recall previous successes to remind you of your “I can attitude,” so you continue to pursue your goal.

Live in the Present– A person cannot seize the opportunities of the present to reach their goal living in the past. So forgive your mistakes and let go of guilt. Only briefly visit the past to recall your successes and imagine yourself having similar successes in the present.

Affirm Yourself – Create self-talk around your strengths to reinforce your value to you. When you do, you feel you deserve success. Moreover, doing so helps you to avoid criticizing yourself around your weaknesses. In addition, this positive self-talk will inspire you to action, to focus on the good, to meet challenges that present themselves with confidence, and to expect positive results.

Handle Situations – If an obstacle presents itself, focus on your past successes. Remember challenges that you have overcome and trust your strengths, talents, skills, and inner wisdom to guide you to the right solutions to accomplish your goals. Using problem-solving strategies and asking questions provide structure and guidance to facilitate the process.

If you consider using these proven strategies today, you can build high self-esteem and confidence and thus increase your chance for success.

Related resources:

Books:  Choose to Have Self High Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                             Rise Up to Yourself Greater Success Awaits   https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                         Achieve Success with Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/

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Self-Esteem: The Crucial Factor to Success

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Self-esteem is the reputation one holds with oneself. It is appreciating one’s worth and feeling satisfied with who you are.

In addition, it is the main factor that influences one’s success. Maslow’s hierarchy of basic human needs and motivations indicates that it is essential that people gain self-esteem to be their best self, to reach their full potential, and achieve at the highest level.

Moreover, self-esteem is important to a person’s emotional well-being and happiness. People with high self-esteem accurately assess their abilities and acknowledge their strengths and areas for improvement to themselves.  Accurately acknowledging their strengths allows them to put their weaknesses in proper perspective to accept themselves. They feel “enough! They do not internalize negative feedback they receive in life. Therefore, it does not alter the way they feel about themselves. They are able to give themselves the understanding and support they gives a friend. They show themselves respect.

People who have high self-esteem bounce back from adversity easier. In addition, they realize they are only human, not perfect, and make mistakes. They forgive themselves; they let go of guilt rather than keeping it inside. They affirm their good points and focus on their strengths and what they learned to move forward in life.

Low self-esteem can lead to anxiety, stress and depression; create problems between friends, spouses and within families and hinder performance; and drug and alcohol abuse. These can lead to even lower self-esteem and inappropriate, even violent, behavior.

If you build self-esteem, you will gain greater success, freedom from stress, and anxiety, and thus improve your quality of life.

References:
Maslow, A.H. (1987) Motivation and Personality (3rd ed.) New York: Harper & Row

Related resources:

Books:  Choose to Have Self High Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                             Rise Up to Yourself Greater Success Awaits   https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                         Achieve Success with Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/

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