by Dorothy Wehunt
To appreciate yourself is to raise and expand the value of the good in you. It is to find ways to make your qualities more valuable and thus more valuable to you. Thus, you make yourself important to you and feel important. People hunger to feel important.
When you do, you may realize that you are as important to you as another person is to you. People who realize this meet their needs and take care of self. They know when to “Yes” and “No” to say yet to self.
How do you make your value more important?
Emphasize your good to make your value more important.
Charles Fillmore said, “There is an inherent law of mind that we increase whatever we praise.” (Alliant International University, 2021. Accessed January 22, 2021. Happy Thanksgiving from CSPP! Gratitude Resources for your Holiday | Alliant Intl University)
Reinforce your good points.
Thus, you may want to reinforce your good qualities or good points to yourself. Your accomplishments. Epictetus said, “Know who you are and then adorn yourself accordingly.”
You can do this by choosing to give yourself positive self-talk to validate your good points. Or what you value in you or about you. And express thankfulness.
Louise Hay said, “Affirmations are like seed planted in soil. Poor soil, poor growth. Rich soil, abundant growth. The more you choose to think thoughts that make you feel good, the quicker the affirmations work.” (Succeed Feed, 2020. Accessed January 21, 2021. 99 Louise Hay Quotes That Will Change Your Life | Succeed Feed)
Strengthen good points
And you can develop qualities and characteristics to strengthen their value. Enhance their power or effectiveness. Thus, you make your value more important. As you know, this can lead to greater success. Therefore, this make one’s abilities more valuable to oneself, doesn’t it? Hence, you would believe more in your abilities and thus yourself, wouldn’t you?
In addition, if a person makes positive statements to reinforce them, it will increase her or his belief in them to self. Thus, to do so, expand their value. Louise Hay, said, “What you choose to think about yourself and about life becomes true for you.” (Succeed Feed, 2020. Accessed January 21, 2021. 99 Louise Hay Quotes That Will Change Your Life | Succeed Feed)
Moreover, a person wants to sets goals that call upon one to use one’s good qualities to reinforce their value to self. And makes choices and chooses actions. Are there things you want to achieve that you have put on the back burner? Or that you felt you did not have the ability to do so? Or the time. To find new or different ways to use one’s abilities expands their usefulness to you and thus their value.
Speak Up for self and Make Your Value More Important
If someone questions your ability, you might share your good points in a confident tone. Depending on the situation. Not in an arrogant or hostile tone. If a person does this, he reinforces them to her or himself.
So, if a person keeps another person waiting five minutes over and over, that person wants to speak up. If a person does this, it shows that she or he does not place much value on the meeting or seeing the person. And if a person makes a habit of criticizing another person over trifling or small things, she or he speaks up. When one does this, doesn’t he make her or himself as important to him as the other person to you? Then, why wouldn’t a person want to stand up for self?.
Recognize your uniqueness
It is Only through self-awareness one realizes and claim one’s uniqueness. To do so is to make your value more important to you.
Have you ever seen two people that were exactly alike? “A human being is a single being. Unique and unrepeatable.” Eileen Caddy (Wise Sayings, 2000-2021. Accessed January, 17 2021. Being Unique Sayings and Being Unique Quotes | Wise Sayings )
To recognize that no two people are alike including you is to recognize that you are unique. When you accept what makes you unique, you value you more.
People sometimes say “All women are alike.” Or “All men are alike. Yet, they know this is not accurate. They know they are separate and individual beings. Thus, each of us wants to see self as an individual. To do so is know your uniqueness, what makes you special as a person.
Remember what Dr. Seuss said, “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.” (Inspirational quotes, 2021. Accessed January 17, 2021. Inspirational Quotes about Uniqueness (thoughtsco.com)
Accept Your Uniqueness
Then, one wants to accept this and claim it, don’t you? To do so is to appreciate who you are. People perform the same or similar task in different ways. They have different opinions.
Have you ever taken a walk with friends and each of you pointed out something that the others may not have noticed? If you did, you noticed what was important to you. Or went shopping and each you pointed out a different dress, pair of shows, or color that appealed to? If you did, you were expressing your uniqueness.
“The things that make me different are the things that make me.” A. A. Milne. (Goodreads, 2021, Accessed January 17, 2021. Quote by A. A. Milne: “The things that make me different are the thing…” (goodreads.com)
Moreover, a person is more than flesh and blood and an animal. A person is a mental being. Therefore, he/she is unique. The more one thinks of self as a mental-being with his/he own uniqueness the more one values himself. Moreover, one’s feelings toward oneself depends on what you think about what and who you are. The good in you and your good points.
In closing, what would it mean to your life to appreciate yourself and feel important? To make yourself as important to you as another person is to you. Your feeling important is within your control. Since you know how to do so, you can begin now.
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