by Dorothy Wehunt
Have you ever made a choice that did not lead to your desired result? Many people have experienced this. So, how does one make wise choices for her or him to gain one’s desired outcome? Because wise choices are key to your desired outcome and your well-being, it is the most important choice.
“The choices that we make in our life, indeed determine the kind of results that we experience and the quality of the life that we live.” Sumeet Jain (Everyday power, 2021, accessed January 22, 2021. https://everydaypower.com/quotes-about-choices-and-consequences )
Below is a proven process to make wise choices for best results.
Consequences and benefits
Most people ask themselves how a choice can benefit them before making the choice. But many do not consider the consequences. Or if they do, do they ask themselves, “How could the consequences impact my life?” And “Can I Manage the Consequence to achieve my goal. Or take care of myself.” Or, maybe they do not consciously consider the answers.
Kemi Sogunle said, “For every choice you make, there is a consequence to face. Choose wisely!” Ibid
And Stephanie Meyer said, “Every choice has its consequences. Some more than others.” Ibid.
So, if a person wants to make wise choices for the best outcome, she or he may want to choose to consider consequences as well as the benefits. This is preparing; it is paving the way for a better chance for positive results and success. It is protecting and building self-esteem.
Benefits versus consequences
Have you ever made a choice that led to your desired outcome? But later it led to a negative. To reduce the chance of this happening, you might ask yourself, “What is the worst thing that can happen?” And to prevent this, you may want to ask yourself, “Is the benefit worth the worst that could happen?”
When to Act
Or have you ever made a choice that would have given you the result you wanted if you had not been under stress? Or had acted later? Because a person wants to reach her or his desired results, one may want to act when not stressed. Frustrated or angry.
Some people only consider how making a choice can affect one area of their life and act on the choice. They received the positive results they considered. But the choice had a negative effect on other areas of their life. So, before making a choice, you might ask yourself, “How can this choice affect my health, marriage, etc.?
If a choice that benefits one area of life can have a negative effect on another area of life, you may want to rethink it. This is true if the negative affect might be greater than the benefit to your life. Or if the long-term consequence is greater than the short-term benefit.
For example, a person may stay in an abusive marriage for the security. Or because she does not want to admit she made a mistake. Yet, the abuse is physically and mentally damaging. Furthermore, it undermines self-esteem. it prevents happiness.
Or a person may stay in job for the money. Or because that is what she or he received his training in. Where his experience is. Yet, staying in the job undermines one’s self-esteem which affect future success. If not, it postpones the person getting a job that could enhance self-esteem and success.
Most important remember the choice is yours to make. “When “a person ‘acts on a choice’ he owns it.” (Build Self-Esteem, , 2013.) In other words, he owns all the consequences of the choice. Not the person who want to listen to influence the choice. Thus, “A choice is a person’s, and only that person’s, to make!” (Ibid.)
Therefore, to make the wise choice for self, one asks, “What choice will give me my desired outcome?” How can I make sure this is the best choice for best results for me?
Wise self for right choice
Your inner or wise self knows what choice to make. When we listen to our inner self, we know the right or wise choice and action to take. We make the best choice at the right time.
This process has worked for many people to achieve their desired results. To make wise choices for greater self-esteem and success, you may consider this method. It leads to awareness and self-awareness. And the right or best choice for the best outcome depends on one’s level of awareness at the time you make the choice.
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