How to Conquer Fear of the Unknown


Does uncertainty in life cause you to ask yourself, “Will I be able to handle or cope with this?” and undermine your self-esteem, confidence and thus your success?

Uncertainty is part of life. Worrying about what can or will happen will not prevent something from happening. So how do we overcome the fear of the unknown?

• Take control of your emotions. – Come from a place of power rather than from a victim state of helplessness and hopelessness.

• Be Proactive. – Ask yourself, “What can I do? What options do I have?” Doing what one can do allows one to be able to let go of feeling helpless. Taking action that is under one’s control, that one is able to do, helps one to feel confident and capable.

• Give yourself positive self-talk. – Develop statements around what you can do and create new self-talk to move forward. Doing so is focusing on the known. Doing what you know you can do, the known, builds confidence. It gives hope helping to reduce feelings of helplessness.

• Set goals. – You want to set goals each day and focus on taking the needed action to achieve them. When we are busy being productive, our mind does not have time to worry.

• Forgive your mistakes. – If something does not work out, look at what you did right and what you can learn to have success. Do not beat up on yourself. Everyone makes mistakes at one time or another.

Overcome uncertainty and build the self-esteem and confidence to gain your desired success.

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019.


Many people feel comfortable in some situations and uncomfortable in others. Do you feel good about yourself wherever you are and with whomever you come in contact? Or are there some situations where you wish you felt more confident? If your answer to the latter is yes, you want to read ‘Why Choose High Self-Esteem,’ the first chapter of my book, Choose to Have High Self-Esteem.

This chapter on ‘Why Choose High Self-Esteem’  explains why self-esteem is important to all areas of one’s life. In addition, the references and explanation given help people to see that having healthy self-esteem is good . Thus, they choose to make the decision to gain greater self-esteem.

Personal and Professional Benefits-Here are some authorities who cite the benefits of having self-esteem.  Norman Vincent Peale points out that self-esteem is the secret to success.   Robert Collier explains how it influences the degree of success.  Also, Clement Stone speaks of self-esteem in the role of communication.  Then, Bonaro Overstreet addresses its value in conflict.  In addition, Nathaniel Branden and Les Giblins speak to how self-esteem affects one’s success.  Finally, Sidney Simon is specific in how it affects one’s well-being.

Besides, Joyce Brothers points out its importance to performance. ‘Why Choose to High Self-Esteem’ gives examples to illustrate this point.  These examples will help you to assess or identify ways it can help you to gain greater success.

Benefits illustrated ‘Why Choose High Self-Esteem’ discusses how people with high self-esteem feel about themselves and function. It gives many examples to illustrate this.  Some are entering the work force, pursuing a dream or goal(s), performing a task and making decisions. Too, it discusses how self-esteem helps one to take care of oneself and protect one’s esteem and dignity. Moreover, it describes how it affects interaction in both one’s personal and professional life.

If you would like greater self-esteem and success, you want to click here find out how to get your copy of this book.


©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019 

7 Reasons to Become Self-Reliant


Self-Reliance is knowing you can stand on your own two feet. It is listening to your inner guidance or nudges, etc., rather than to others or external factors. When you are self-reliant, you believe you can do what you need to become successful and take care of yourself. Then, self-reliance is an essential component for developing high self-esteem and confidence.

With self-reliance, you:

Relinquish the need for approval – You know you have the strengths and abilities to achieve success. Therefore, you pursue your goals and expectations, not those of others. Now, you know you no longer need the approval of others.

Feel motivated –You feel capable or “feel enough.” Therefore, you do not need outside stimulation.

Overcome procrastination – Because you trust your abilities, you have the confidence to tackle new and different tasks. You begin.

Handle situations – When problems occur, you are able to look at each situation as it actually is — the issues, the facts, the conditions, the consequences, etc., not as you would like them to be, to find the right, positive, workable solution.

Release worry – Since you trust your strengths and abilities, you trust yourself to meet any challenges that might occur on your path to success. Thus, you feel in control.

Let go of feelings of helplessness – You no longer have to depend on others or on what they are willing to do and when they are willing to do it.

Protect yourself – Inner-directed, you know you can take care of yourself. Thus, you take responsibility for your inspiration, emotions and reactions, success, livelihood, peace and happiness. When you do, no one lets you down.

Gain self-reliance and increase your self-esteem and self-confidence and thus your success, peace, and happiness.

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019.