Achieve Your Goals with High Self-Esteem

People who have high self-esteem feel they have value. Thus, they feel they are worthy and deserving of the best life has to offer. Because they believe in their strengths and abilities, they set goals based on them. Thus, they feel capable and confident. They trust themselves to reach their goals.

Because they feel worthy, they make themselves as important as another. They say “Yes” and “No” to say YES to themselves. Thus, they ask for what they want and are willing to take right action to reach their goal. They take calculated risks to reach their goals.

Since they feel deserving, they acknowledge small and big successes. They give themselves positive self-statements to stay motivated and confident. When a person feels confident, he feels capable. Thus, he tackles difficult tasks to reach his goal.

By choosing to live with awareness, they know their areas of potential. Thus, they know how to be their best self and to achieve greater success. Because they believe in their strengths and abilities, they believe they can learn new things. They are willing to act to improve their skills and overcome limitations to reach goals.

People who have healthy self-esteem choose to resolve their own challenges and problems. When a person lets another person rescue him, she or he sets himself up to become a victim.

They focus on what they can influence or change for the better, not the things they have no real control over. They look for workable strategies and solutions. Doing so creates a positive energy that acts as a catalyst for greater personal power and action. Thus, their concerns lose their power or disappear. Hence, they take right action to achieve their goals. At the same time, their belief in their skills makes others other believe in them and their abilities. They gain respect from others and thus greater self-respect.

In addition, they take control of their emotions. Thus, they respond rather than react to situations, which helps them to gain influence. They affirm themselves to avoid internalizing negatives. In doing so, they reduce or prevent conflict and thus manage stress and protect their dignity.

Then, people with self-esteem know how to use their strengths and abilities. They know how to contribute to the betterment of society and to be part of the world. Thus, they make themselves important to society and the world.


©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019. 

Gain Success with Self-Discipline

“One of the most important keys to success is having the discipline to do what you know you should do, even when you don’t feel like doing it.” Unknown

In what situation or area of your life do you want or need more self-discipline? Do you have an action you need to take for your business? Maybe you need to make five sales calls a day to reach your career goal or posts five times a day on social media to attract new followers to gain potential clients.  On the other hand, is there a personal goal you would like to achieve, such as losing five pounds, reading one book every month or saving money for a house or your future?

Self-discipline helps us to begin tasks to finish them on time. Performing a task on time prevents us from worrying about doing it at the last minute and doing it well and thus reduces stress. Self-discipline puts us in control of our emotions and ourselves and thus in charge of our lives. Therefore, self-discipline gives us the gift of freedom.  

Then, how do we get ourselves to do the things we need to do to reach our goal to achieve our desired success? In high school, did you try out for cheerleading, despite any associated fear or anxiety of losing and feeling embarrassed, so that you could belong or receive recognition?  Possibly, you worked to achieve good grades to belong to the honor society or to feel proud of yourself for the accomplishment. Did you ever take a particular class that you did not want to take in high school because it was a prerequisite to attend college or for your career major for greater accomplishment and success?

Similarly, in the work environment, have you ever volunteered to work on a project or on the weekend to gain respect and thus influence? Maybe you played volleyball, golf, or baseball at work for the same reasons?

If you made one of the above choices or a similar one, did you sacrifice doing something that would have been more fun? Perhaps, you sacrificed spending time with friends or family.  If you did, the benefit you were going to receive caused you to view your choice to say NO not as self-denial.

Have you heard it said that we have self-discipline when we want to do something or when doing something makes us feel good about ourselves? Abraham Joshua Heschel said, “Self-respect is the root of discipline. The sense of dignity grows with the ability to say No to oneself.”   

Then, to have the self-discipline to choose to do what you need to do, you want to ask yourself, “If I say No to this, how will I say “Yes” to myself? How would saying No to this help me to feel proud, have greater confidence and live with dignity?”

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019.

Want to Live in the Present and Increase Your Self-Esteem and Gain Success

Presence is a catalyst for task accomplishment and creating success. When we live in the present, we give our full attention to and engage in what is going on in the now. Doing so promotes task or goal achievement and successful outcomes. Each time we complete a task, we gain confidence in our capability and thus in our ability to reach our goals. We like ourselves. To create greater success, we want to take a closer look at the relationship between presence and our success and self-esteem. 

When we focus on the job that needs doing, we know what it involves. We know what we need to do first to complete the task and to do so successfully. Some tasks require doing the steps of the task sequentially for successful completion. For example, using a recipe to make a cake from scratch usually has directions that call for specific ingredients and adding them in a certain sequence since doing so affects the outcome of the cake most of the time. On the other hand, if a task does not require a step-by-step process for completing it, some people perform the part of the task they consider the easiest to do first. Some other people do the difficult part of the task first to get it out of the way. Thus, we know how to begin, and we start.

However, if a person focuses on future challenges that might occur along the way, what ifs or what could go wrong, the person hinders, and possibly keeps, her or himself from beginning the task. The same is true if a person worries about the outcome or end results. If one does, one undermines one’s confidence and task or goal achievement and thus success.

When we fully engage in the step of the task at hand, we are less likely to make mistakes. We accomplish the task successfully and say to ourselves “Yes” or “Good job.” Thus, we feel capable of performing the next step in the task. Each step we complete leads to the next step. With the successful completion of each step, the more capable and confident we feel. Therefore, our self-esteem grows.

In addition, presence helps us to know how to contribute to a conversation or work discussion or how to introduce our ideas to have them considered. When we give our attention to what others say, verbally and nonverbally, not what we want to say, we are better able to understand the beliefs a person holds and the intensity of the belief or conviction. How receptive or whether others are receptive to what we have to say depends on the strength of their conviction. Therefore, we know if we want to share our viewpoint or idea and how to share it to have it better understood. The more we can present our viewpoint or idea from their frame of reference the more likely we will have it considered and the less conflict we will incur. The earlier we have this awareness the better. Thus, presence helps us to communicate effectively to gain influence and build relationships.

If you want to complete tasks successfully with ease and communicate to gain influence to experience greater success, you want to practice living in the moment beginning today. If you do, you will also experience greater self-esteem.

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019.

Be True to Yourself

When we choose to live according to our truth, we are true to ourselves. Then, to be true to yourself means you listen to your inner wisdom and follow it. You live with integrity. You pursue your dream(s).  

Sometimes we repress who we are and live our lives according to the expectations of others to please them. A person may change a hairstyle or color because of peer pressure. A young man who does not want to work in his father’s business does not pursue his dream of becoming a lawyer or a doctor.

Some couples marry when they are not ready to do so because of pressure from family or society to do the “right” thing. Moreover, some have children when they are not ready or do not want children for the same reason. Sometimes one spouse does not communicate the strength of her or his conviction about having or not having children for the other partner to hear it.    

Often one spouse puts aside her dream for the other partner to pursue his interest. The partner does this to please the other partner to keep harmony. However, over time, the partner who sacrificed her interest becomes resentful and angry mostly with herself, and thus becomes determined and declares her independence to pursue her dream.

Living our truth protects us from making mistakes in our personal and professional lives, which cause pain. It prevents self-sacrifice and thus prevents stress, anger, resentment and conflict. It promotes better relationships. Then, living our truth lays a foundation for a healthy, happy, and successful life.

To be true to yourself requires you to know yourself. You are honest with yourself about who you are and what you want. What is your dream? Are the goals you are pursuing your dreams? What career did you want to pursue when you were a child? When you are alone, sitting quietly, where does your mind drift? What do you see, hear and feel?

Being true to yourself calls upon you to believe you deserve to live your truth. It requires you to believe in you and in your ability to reach your goal(s) or fulfill your dream.

In addition, to be true to yourself requires that you commit to yourself. What choices will you make and actions will you take to meet your dream?

To get what we want, we honestly and sincerely communicate our needs to the proper people, parents or a partner, stand by our truth, and not deny who we are and give away our power. If we have not expressed our truth to the right person, and have given away our power, it is up to us to take it back by making another choice to change the course of our life.

One day, three years ago, a female who had worked with her husband for ten years to help him build his repair business surprised and shocked him. She said, “I have decided to go back to school and get a job in the medical profession. I don’t want to climb on roofs the rest of my life.” She loves her job. Though he misses her company and it takes him longer to finish his jobs, he is happy that she is happy.

To feel good about yourself and at peace, make the decision to live your life according to your truth.

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019.

Five Strategies for Successful Goal Achievement


Would you like to reach your goals in life and thus your success, do so easier and with less stress, and enhance your self-esteem and confidence?

Here are five strategies for successful goal achievement:

Set Realistic Goals – Develop goals based on your previous successes. You know you have the strengths and abilities to reach your goals. You have the inspiration and confidence to act to reach your goals.

Stay on Target – If thoughts of doubt stop your momentum, quickly recall previous successes to remind you of your “I can attitude,” so you continue to pursue your goal.

Live in the Present– A person cannot seize the opportunities of the present to reach their goal living in the past. So forgive your mistakes and let go of guilt. Only briefly visit the past to recall your successes and imagine yourself having similar successes in the present.

Affirm Yourself – Create self-talk around your strengths to reinforce your value to you. When you do, you feel you deserve success. Moreover, doing so helps you to avoid criticizing yourself around your weaknesses. In addition, this positive self-talk will inspire you to action, to focus on the good, to meet challenges that present themselves with confidence, and to expect positive results.

Handle Situations – If an obstacle presents itself, focus on your past successes. Remember challenges that you have overcome and trust your strengths, talents, skills, and inner wisdom to guide you to the right solutions to accomplish your goals. Using problem-solving strategies and asking questions provide structure and guidance to facilitate the process.

If you consider using these proven strategies today, you can build high self-esteem and confidence and thus increase your chance for success.

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019

Self-Esteem: The Crucial Factor to Success

Self-esteem is the reputation one holds with oneself. It is appreciating one’s worth and feeling satisfied with who you are.

In addition, it is the main factor that influences one’s success. Maslow’s hierarchy of basic human needs and motivations indicates that it is essential that people gain self-esteem to be their best self, to reach their full potential, and achieve at the highest level.

Moreover, self-esteem is important to a person’s emotional well-being and happiness. People with high self-esteem accurately assess their abilities and acknowledge their strengths and areas for improvement to themselves.  Accurately acknowledging their strengths allows them to put their weaknesses in proper perspective to accept themselves. They feel “enough! They do not internalize negative feedback they receive in life. Therefore, it does not alter the way they feel about themselves. They are able to give themselves the understanding and support they gives a friend. Hence, they show themselves respect.

People who have high self-esteem bounce back from adversity easier. They realize they are only human. Therefore, they accept that they ae not perfect, and make mistakes. Hence, they are able to forgive themselves and let go of guilt rather than keeping it inside. They affirm their good points and focus on their strengths and what they learned to move forward in life.

Low self-esteem can lead to anxiety, stress and depression. It create problems between friends, spouses and within families and hinder performance. It leads to drug and alcohol abuse. These can lead to even lower self-esteem and inappropriate, even violent, behavior.

If you build self-esteem, you will gain greater success, freedom from stress, and anxiety, and thus improve your quality of life.

Maslow, A.H. (1987) Motivation and Personality (3rd ed.) New York: Harper & Row

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019.