Most of us have heard of the self-fulfilling prophecy. Or Act as If. “Whatever we expect with confidence becomes our own self-fulfilling prophecy,” said Brian Tracy. (BrainyQuote, 2001-2018, Accessed August 28,2018. https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/brian_tracy_384549?=t_self-fulling_prophecy).
But how many people believe in it or sluff it off, thinking, “It works for others, not me.” Or, “They had what it takes.”
“You only need your approval. Anyone else is a bonus.” Anonymous (Awaken the Greatest Within, 2015-2020, Accessed January 23, 2021. https://www.awakenthegreatnesswithin.com/35-inspirational-quotes-on-approval/ ) Therefore, you may want to continue to read this article to begin to do so.
Many people feel comfortable in some situations and uncomfortable in others. Do you feel good about yourself wherever you are and with whomever you come in contact? Or are there some situations where you wish you felt more confidence? If your answer to the latter is yes, you want to read ‘Why Build Self-Esteem,’ the first chapter of my book, Build Self-Esteem.
Self-awareness allows us to know what makes us feel good and what does not. When we know this, we can choose self-talk to “feel enough,” and to like ourselves. To develop greater self-awareness and thus positive self-talk, you want to:
Self-esteem is the reputation one holds with oneself. It is appreciating one’s worth. And feeling satisfied with who you are. Thus, it affects your confidence in your ability to reach your goals and thus achieve success.
Self-reliance is knowing you can stand on your own two feet. It is listening to your inner guidance or nudges, etc., rather than to others. Or to external factors. When you are self-reliant, you believe you can do what you need to do to become successful and take care of yourself. Then, being self-reliant is having the essential component for developing high self-esteem and confidence.
To develop self-reliance, you want to do the following:
Assertiveness is a powerful form of communication that you can use to take care of yourself while building positive relationships. If you assert yourself appropriately on a regular basis, you build self-esteem to the degree that you: