7 Ways to Love Yourself

Self-love is giving kindness, understanding, and encouragement to oneself and showing concern for oneself. It is giving yourself unconditional positive regard. Then to love yourself you want to:

Give Yourself Positive Feedback – The things we say to ourselves affects how we feel about ourselves. Self-talk determines whether we take action to pursue our goals or handle situations to take care of ourselves. To have positive self-talk requires that we make a conscious choice to do so.

Appreciate Your Strengths – Each of us has strengths, skills, talents and abilities. Identify and acknowledge them for they make you who you are. They differentiate you from anyone else and make you unique. Thus they give you value and help you find your purpose in life.

Forgive Yourself – Doing so helps us to move forward to achieve our goals and build a future. Staying stuck in the past is a waste of time and energy. It is gone and we cannot bring it back.

Stand Up for Yourself – Each of us has certain rights. When we speak up for ourselves, we are protecting ourselves or our interest and our integrity.

Meet Your Needs – Know when saying “Yes” and saying “No” meets your needs. Know when and how to say “Yes” and “No” to yourself and others to meet your needs.  Certainly, you want to say no to avoid becoming a victim.

Let Go of Perfectionism – No one is perfect. We are human beings. Acknowledging this helps us to forgive ourselves

Live by your values – When we do, we set priorities and make choices and decisions accordingly.  Doing so is being true to who you are and honoring who you are.

When you choose to apply these to your life, notice how you feel about yourself. When will you decide?

©Dorothy Wehunt and https://lifecoachwehunt.com 2019. 

Be True to Yourself

When we choose to live according to our truth, we are true to ourselves. Then, to be true to yourself means you listen to your inner wisdom and follow it. You live with integrity. You pursue your dream(s).  

Sometimes we repress who we are and live our lives according to the expectations of others to please them. A person may change a hairstyle or color because of peer pressure. A young man who does not want to work in his father’s business does not pursue his dream of becoming a lawyer or a doctor.

Some couples marry when they are not ready to do so because of pressure from family or society to do the “right” thing. Moreover, some have children when they are not ready or do not want children for the same reason. Sometimes one spouse does not communicate the strength of her or his conviction about having or not having children for the other partner to hear it.    

Often one spouse puts aside her dream for the other partner to pursue his interest. The partner does this to please the other partner to keep harmony. However, over time, the partner who sacrificed her interest becomes resentful and angry mostly with herself, and thus becomes determined and declares her independence to pursue her dream.

Living our truth protects us from making mistakes in our personal and professional lives, which cause pain. It prevents self-sacrifice and thus prevents stress, anger, resentment and conflict. It promotes better relationships. Then, living our truth lays a foundation for a healthy, happy, and successful life.

To be true to yourself requires you to know yourself. You are honest with yourself about who you are and what you want. What is your dream? Are the goals you are pursuing your dreams? What career did you want to pursue when you were a child? When you are alone, sitting quietly, where does your mind drift? What do you see, hear and feel?

Being true to yourself calls upon you to believe you deserve to live your truth. It requires you to believe in you and in your ability to reach your goal(s) or fulfill your dream.

In addition, to be true to yourself requires that you commit to yourself. What choices will you make and actions will you take to meet your dream?

To get what we want, we honestly and sincerely communicate our needs to the proper people, parents or a partner, stand by our truth, and not deny who we are and give away our power. If we have not expressed our truth to the right person, and have given away our power, it is up to us to take it back by making another choice to change the course of our life.

One day, three years ago, a female who had worked with her husband for ten years to help him build his repair business surprised and shocked him. She said, “I have decided to go back to school and get a job in the medical profession. I don’t want to climb on roofs the rest of my life.” She loves her job. Though he misses her company and it takes him longer to finish his jobs, he is happy that she is happy.

To feel good about yourself and at peace, make the decision to live your life according to your truth.

©Dorothy Wehunt and https://lifecoachwehunt.com 2019.