Self-Esteem: The Crucial Factor to Success

Self-esteem is the reputation one holds with oneself. It is appreciating one’s worth and feeling satisfied with who you are.

In addition, it is the main factor that influences one’s success. Maslow’s hierarchy of basic human needs and motivations indicates that it is essential that people gain self-esteem to be their best self, to reach their full potential, and achieve at the highest level.

Moreover, self-esteem is important to a person’s emotional well-being and happiness. People with high self-esteem accurately assess their abilities and acknowledge their strengths and areas for improvement to themselves.  Accurately acknowledging their strengths allows them to put their weaknesses in proper perspective to accept themselves. They feel “enough! They do not internalize negative feedback they receive in life. Therefore, it does not alter the way they feel about themselves. They are able to give themselves the understanding and support they gives a friend. Hence, they show themselves respect.

People who have high self-esteem bounce back from adversity easier. They realize they are only human. Therefore, they accept that they ae not perfect, and make mistakes. Hence, they are able to forgive themselves and let go of guilt rather than keeping it inside. They affirm their good points and focus on their strengths and what they learned to move forward in life.

Low self-esteem can lead to anxiety, stress and depression. It create problems between friends, spouses and within families and hinder performance. It leads to drug and alcohol abuse. These can lead to even lower self-esteem and inappropriate, even violent, behavior.

If you build self-esteem, you will gain greater success, freedom from stress, and anxiety, and thus improve your quality of life.

Maslow, A.H. (1987) Motivation and Personality (3rd ed.) New York: Harper & Row

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019. 

If You Want to Accept Yourself, Let Go of Five Things

To accept yourself is to love yourself. It is self-caring or being empathetic to yourself. It is nourishing yourself. To accept yourself, let go of the following:

Comparison and Competition – Focus on your accomplishments and their value to accept yourself. When you do, you will see the value and power of your strengths, and thus know your value. You will not need to compare yourself to others. You will compete with yourself. You will have less stress

Self-Judgment and Self-CriticismSubstitute negative message with positive messages that are accurate or true. Or reframe the negative message to a positive message. If you do this daily, you develop a habit of giving yourself positive feedback to accept yourself.

Perfectionism– Accept that “no one” is perfect. All of us are human beings. We all have our imperfections. Think about this – no one is 100% kind, friendly, etc. all the time.

Self-Defeating Beliefs – Some people received spoken or unspoken messages such as, “Why can’t you be as smart or friendly as…?” or “You’re too…” growing up. They repeated these over and over until they believed them. With self-awareness, you have the ability to reject any limiting beliefs that do not serve your best.

Feelings of Unworthiness – These become evident as guilt, shame, and self-blame. Remember we do the best we can with the level of awareness we have at the time. Therefore, you did your best at the time. Live in the present. If you are focusing on the lessons you learned, you are living in the present. The past is gone!

If you want to have greater self-esteem and self-confidence, make a shift in your thinking to accept yourself. EACH of us has the ability to do so.

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019.