When we choose to live according to our truth, we are true to ourselves. Then, to be true to yourself means you listen to your inner wisdom and follow it. You live with integrity. You pursue your dream(s).
Sometimes we repress who we are and live our lives according to the expectations of others to please them. A person may change a hairstyle or color because of peer pressure. A young man who does not want to work in his father’s business does not pursue his dream of becoming a lawyer or a doctor.
Comparing ourselves to others is self-defeating. It cause us not to see our self as a separate person with individual strengths and abilities. Then, comparing our self to another person leads us to think that the other person has no faults and that we should be like that person. Therefore, this causes one ot feel less than and leads to self-criticism, which further undermines self-esteem.
Assertiveness is a powerful form of communication that you can you can use to take care of yourself while building positive relationships. If you use it correctly and appropriately on a regular basis, you build self-esteem to the degree that you:
Express your needs and wants.
If you ask for what you want using assertiveness, you are telling the other person, “I count” or “I matter.” Doing so is giving yourself respect. If the other person honors your request, you enhance your self-respect even more.
Self-Reliance is knowing you can stand on your own two feet. It is listening to your inner guidance or nudges, etc., rather than to others or external factors. When you are self-reliant, you believe you can do what you need to become successful and take care of yourself. Then, self-reliance is an essential component for developing high self-esteem and confidence.
To respect ourselves we must find the best within us and live with our best selves. Then we want to overcome the barriers to self-respect, so that we can begin to give ourselves the respect we desire.
Fear of the Unknown.
Uncertainty is present in our lives every day. The weather changes. Changes occur at work — Lay-offs, mergers, bosses, and technology. These changes lead to a different way of doing things in the workplace. Society changes. Fear of uncertainty or the unknown can lead to withdrawal, which keeps us from pursuing our dreams, interacting with others and making friends, and thus living a full life. On the other hand, learning to live with uncertainty helps us to develop strength and resilience and become resourceful.
Self-awareness allows us to know what makes us feel good and what does not. When we know this, we can choose thoughts to “feel enough,” and to like ourselves. To develop greater self-awareness, you want to:
Notice Your Feelings.
Your awareness of your feelings in your body – frustration, guilt, anxiety, disappointment, anger, depression, etc., in different situations– signal you to listen to what you are saying to yourself.
Self-esteem is the reputation one holds with oneself. It is appreciating one’s worth and feeling satisfied with who you are.
In addition, it is the main factor that influences one’s success. Maslow’s hierarchy of basic human needs and motivations indicates that it is essential that people gain self-esteem to be their best self, to reach their full potential, and achieve at the highest level.
To accept yourself is to love yourself. It is self-caring or being empathetic to yourself. It is nourishing yourself. To accept yourself, let go of the following:
Comparison and Competition
Focus on your accomplishments and their value to accept yourself. When you do, you will see the value and power of your strengths, and thus know your value. You will not need to compare yourself to others. You will compete with yourself. You will have less stress