Self-esteem is how we feel about our self or our abilities and our worth. If one consistently feels okay or comfortable with who one is, or “feels enough,” on a daily basis and in different situations, he has high self-esteem. How can each of us have stable High Self-Esteem?
Live consciously – With self-awareness, we can be in tune with who we are – our likes, dislikes, needs, wants, strengths, weaknesses, accomplishments, beliefs and values.
Self-love is giving kindness, understanding, and encouragement to oneself and showing concern for oneself. It is giving yourself unconditional positive regard. Then to love yourself you want to:
Give Yourself Positive Feedback – The things we say to ourselves affects how we feel about ourselves. Self-talk determines whether we take action to pursue our goals or handle situations to take care of ourselves. To have positive self-talk requires that we make a conscious choice to do so.
“One of the most important keys to success is having the discipline to do what you know you should do, even when you don’t feel like doing it.” Unknown
In what situation or area of your life do you want or need more self-discipline? Do you have an action you need to take for your business? Maybe you need to make five sales calls a day to reach your career goal or posts five times a day on social media to attract new followers to gain potential clients.On the other hand, is there a personal goal you would like to achieve, such as losing five pounds, reading one book every month or saving money for a house or your future?
Presence is a catalyst for task accomplishment and creating success. When we live in the present, we give our full attention to and engage in what is going on in the now. Doing so promotes task or goal achievement and successful outcomes. Each time we complete a task, we gain confidence in our capability and thus in our ability to reach our goals. We like ourselves. To create greater success, we want to take a closer look at the relationship between presence and our success and self-esteem.
We want to know and feel we can reach our desired goals, express our opinions, and handle criticism, conflict and difficult situations to feel okay.
The negative feedback, verbal or nonverbal, one receives from parents, teachers, and peers, growing up sets the stage for feelings of adequacy. If a person receives put-downs or negative nonverbal, when she or he asks questions or gives his opinion, more than likely, the person experiences self-doubt. Thus, he experiences feelings of “not enough” and “not good enough.” Whether the person stops participating or speaking up in groups depends on the severity and consistency of the put-downs.
When we choose to live according to our truth, we are true to ourselves. Then, to be true to yourself means you listen to your inner wisdom and follow it. You live with integrity. You pursue your dream(s).
Sometimes we repress who we are and live our lives according to the expectations of others to please them. A person may change a hairstyle or color because of peer pressure. A young man who does not want to work in his father’s business does not pursue his dream of becoming a lawyer or a doctor.
Comparing ourselves to others is self-defeating. It cause us not to see our self as a separate person with individual strengths and abilities. Then, comparing our self to another person leads us to think that the other person has no faults and that we should be like that person. Therefore, this causes one ot feel less than and leads to self-criticism, which further undermines self-esteem.
Assertiveness is a powerful form of communication that you can you can use to take care of yourself while building positive relationships. If you use it correctly and appropriately on a regular basis, you build self-esteem to the degree that you:
Express your needs and wants – If you ask for what you want using assertiveness, you are telling the other person, “I count” or “I matter.” Doing so is giving yourself respect. If the other person honors your request, you enhance your self-respect even more.
Self-Reliance is knowing you can stand on your own two feet. It is listening to your inner guidance or nudges, etc., rather than to others or external factors. When you are self-reliant, you believe you can do what you need to become successful and take care of yourself. Then, self-reliance is an essential component for developing high self-esteem and confidence.
Would you like to reach your goals in life and thus your success, do so easier and with less stress, and enhance your self-esteem and confidence?
Here are five strategies for successful goal achievement:
Set Realistic Goals – Develop goals based on your previous successes. You know you have the strengths and abilities to reach your goals. You have the inspiration and confidence to act to reach your goals.