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‘WHY CHOOSE HIGH SELF-ESTEEM’

Many people feel comfortable in some situations and uncomfortable in others. Do you feel good about yourself wherever you are and with whomever you come in contact? Or are there some situations where you wish you felt more confident? If your answer to the latter is yes, you want to read ‘Why Choose High Self-Esteem,’ the first chapter of my book, Choose to Have High Self-Esteem.

This chapter on ‘Why Choose High Self-Esteem’  explains why self-esteem is important to all areas of one’s life. In addition, it gives references and an explanation that will help people give themselves permission to accept that it is okay, not wrong, to have healthy self-esteem.

Personal and Professional Benefits-Quotes from various self-esteem authorities explain and reinforce to us the reasons one wants to develop high self-esteem for both personal and professional success. Norman Vincent Peale and Robert Collier address a particular characteristic that people who choose high self-esteem possess and its role in achieving success. Clement Stone speaks of self-esteem in regard to communication. In addition, Bonaro Overstreet addresses its value in conflict. Moreover, Nathaniel Branden and Les Giblin specifically speaks to how it affects one personal and professional success. Sidney Simon is specific in how he it affects one’s well-being.

Benefits illustrated-Explained in ‘Why Choose High Self-Esteem’ is how people with high self-esteem versus how people with low self-esteem feel about themselves and function. Examples include entering the work force, pursuing a dream or goal(s), performing a task and making decisions. In addition, it discusses how self-esteem helps one to take care of oneself and protect one’s esteem and dignity. Moreover, described is how it affects interaction in both one’s personal and professional life.

I might add that “Why Choose High Self-Esteem’ provides many examples of different situations where high self-esteem could change someone’s life for the better. These examples can help you to identify how greater self-esteem could improve your life.

To read how Choose to Have High Self-Esteem can help you to gain greater self-esteem and confidence, click here.

Related resources:

Books:  Choose to Have Self High Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                             Rise Up to Yourself Greater Success Awaits   https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                         Achieve Success with Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/

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“Rise Up to Yourself”

When you were a child growing up, did your mother or father wake you up by gently shaking you and saying, “Rise up and Shine.”? If so, you probably knew that meant to pay attention to your teacher today, make good grades, and don’t get in trouble. So, you learned it meant, “Do your best.”

“Rise Up to Yourself,” the first chapter in my book, Rise Up to Yourself, Greater Success Awaits tells how being your best self includes or involves more than just using your training in a subject to do your job. Second, it describes how developing and using soft skills will help you to be your best self and thus enhance your self-esteem, your personal and professional success and your life. Third, it tells you what you want to look for as you read each chapter, so you can apply the information on a daily basis to feel good about yourself and to achieve your desired success.

I wrote this book because I, like many others I have met in life, wished I had been aware of these non-technical skills. Awareness of their importance and power and/or how to use them effectively earlier in life, I believe , would have helped me to avoid some mistakes. Thus, I feel I would have achieved more or greater success in life.

If you would like to see a list of the chapter topics and read more about how they will help you gain greater self-esteem and confidence, success and happiness, click here.

Related resources:

Books:  Choose to Have Self High Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                             Rise Up to Yourself Greater Success Awaits   https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                         Achieve Success with Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/

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Empower Yourself with Self Talk

What are you telling yourself right now? Our self-talk, verbally or silently, empowers or disempowers us and thus builds or undermines one’s self-esteem and self-confidence.  How does it do that? It determines our:

Feelings – What we tell ourselves, about daily situations influence how we feel — sad or happy, worried or anxious, frustrated, or fearful.  The thoughts we hold about our value as a person affect whether we feel we are worthy or worthwhile and deserving.

Belief in our abilities – How we choose to view our accomplishments determines how successful we feel. If we think our strengths can benefit us, we feel capable. Thus, we “feel enough.”

Decision-making and choices – The way we define ourselves depends upon who or what we think we are. What we think or believe about our abilities determines whether or not we make the decision to set and pursue goals and what goal(s) we decide to set and action(s) we choose to take. Whether we decide to forgive our mistakes depends on whether we live in the present and focus our thoughts on our successes, what we did right or what worked out, and our goals.

Motivation – If we give ourselves encouraging and positive messages about our strengths and abilities that cause us to believe in our abilities and thus ourselves, we feel inspired to take action.

Assertion – When we feel worthwhile, we feel we deserve success. When we believe in our abilities, we trust ourselves to pursue our goals. We have developed an “I can” attitude. Thus, we take action to meet our goals.

Risk-taking – Challenges often occur that require us to do something differently if we want to reach our goal to achieve our desired success. If we feel deserving of success and believe in our strengths, we trust them to overcome the challenges to reach our goal and gain success.

If you want greater self-esteem and self-confidence, you want to decide to choose the thoughts that you need to think on a daily basis to do so.

Related resources:

Books:  Choose to Have Self High Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                             Rise Up to Yourself Greater Success Awaits   https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                         Achieve Success with Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/

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How to Overcome Fear of Failure

Many people allow fear of failure to keep them from their dream. Limiting self-talk around situations where they did not receive their desired results and negative feedback from others led to the fear of failure. How can one let go of fear of failure?

Choose Success – Make a conscious decision to set goals for the self-satisfaction of reaching them, not for just a paycheck. Doing so gives you a greater buy in for achieving success. You become committed to the goal achievement.

Find Your Uniqueness – When you realize your uniqueness — what qualities or traits, strengths, talents, skills and abilities that make up who you are — you know your value. You believe in yourself and believe you can achieve success.

Improve Your Handicap – What weakness is the greatest contributing factor to the fear of failure? Alternatively, what undeveloped area, if developed, would help you increase your chance of success and do so with the least resistance, and thus overcome fear of failure.? Developing new qualities and skills will help you to feel more capable and thus more confident to act to achieve success.

Forgive Your Mistakes – Remember, everyone makes mistakes. What did you learn from the mistake that can become a building block for success? Certainly, you want to give yourself credit for what you did that worked.

Create New Self-talk – Develop positive statements around your strengths, what you learned and what you did that worked and affirm yourself. To know and affirm your strengths is to own them which allows you to believe you can achieve success. Therefore, you let go of fear of failure.

Make Success a Habit – Set daily goals, and do what you need to do to reach them. In doing so, you develop a habit of setting and attaining goals — achieving success. Acknowledging successes increases self-confidence, which inspires you to set other goals and to take action to attain more or greater success

Love yourself enough to overcome fear of failure, and you will increase your self-confidence and gain success and greater self-respect.

Related resources:

Books:  Choose to Have Self High Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                             Rise Up to Yourself Greater Success Awaits   https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                         Achieve Success with Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/

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Want Success in 2018

What do you want in your life in 2018 or what would success look like to you? A promotion. pay increase, a house, or life partner? Healing? Or Less stress, anxiety, conflict?

Maybe you have a goal from your childhood that you set aside because you felt, or someone told you, it was beyond your reach. Or, you may want closure to a situation.

Nathaniel Branden, an American psychotherapist and writer on self -esteem, said, “Tell me how a person judges his or her self-esteem, and I will tell you how that person operates at work, in sex, in parenting, in every important aspect of existence-and how high he or she is likely to rise. The reputation you have with yourself -your self-esteem-is the single most important fact of a fulfilling life.” 1

Then, regardless of our goal, self-esteem is the vital to success.  In fact, Zig, Ziglar, author, salesman, and motivational speaker,  said, “The strongest factor for success is self-esteem: Believing you can do it, believing you deserve it and believing you will get it.”2

How you can enhance your believability in yourself is to:

Believe ‘I deserve this – Each of us has the right to meet our needs and have them met.  Everyone is important and one person’s needs is as important as the next.  A person’s needs are as important to him as the next person’s is to him. When we know that we have value, we feel worthwhile.  Then it is important to accept your strengths — When we accept that we have strengths, we know our value.  Moreover, when we do, we believe that we are deserving of meeting our needs and of success.

Believe ‘I can do this’ –  When we acknowledge our previous accomplishments and the strengths that helped us to achieve them, we feel competent.  In addition, when we know and feel that we can count on our strengths to be there for us when we need them, we feel capable.  We trust ourselves; we feel confident.  Then, we are willing to act to achieve our goal.

What are your strengths? How do you feel these strengths have helped you gain success personally and/or professionally?  What particular success comes to mind? What strengths do you feel helped you achieve this success.

Now, as you think of a goal you would like to achieve in 2018, picture yourself successfully reaching this goal. Allow yourself time to do this. Seeing yourself achieving this goal will help you to believe it is possible and, it will enhance your belief in your ability and in yourself.  Therefore, it will strengthen your motivation to take action to reach your goal.

Believe ‘I will get it’–  You set your goals based on your strengths and abilities, not those of others.  You feel confident that you can achieve your desired success. You know your goal is attainable based on your previous accomplishments and success. Now, you act to reach your goal(s) to have the success you so want.

If you would like help in building self-esteem and confidence and in reaching your goal in 2018, please free to contact me at info@lifecoachwehunt.com.

Related resources:

Books:  Choose to Have Self High Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                             Rise Up to Yourself Greater Success Awaits   https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                         Achieve Success with Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/

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4 Ways to Live with Integrity

 

Integrity is an essential ingredient for self-esteem. Here are four ways to live with integrity and maintain your self-respect.

Know your truth – Be honest with yourself about who you are — your strengths and weaknesses. This calls upon you to evaluate who you are sincerely and objectively. To do this, let go of the need to be perfect and give yourself credit for your successes, strengths, skills, talents, and abilities.

Admit mistakes – Admitting mistakes and correcting them if possible builds integrity with others. Certainly, you want to admit the mistake to the right person. Moreover, admitting a mistake is not living in denial. Thus,  it builds self-integrity. Once you admit a mistake, you want to forgive yourself to let go of any guilt because each of us has the right to live a peaceful life and to love ourselves.

Be true to yourself – Set goals around your strengths and abilities, not those of others. You project your true self and gain respect, which increase your self-respect. Moreover, setting goals around your strengths and abilities will inspire you to pursue your goals, to express your strengths, and to overcome challenges to meet your goals, which builds self-integrity and thus self-respect.

Do your best – Setting high standards is essential for us to do our best. Having high standards inspires you and gives you the guidance to do so. Pursuing high standards, even when no one is watching, is living with the integrity to respect yourself.

Therefore, to live with integrity to respect yourself and build self-esteem, you must decide to make the choices and take the actions necessary to live with integrity.

Related resources:

Books:  Choose to Have Self High Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                             Rise Up to Yourself Greater Success Awaits   https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                         Achieve Success with Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/

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How to Have Stable High Self-Esteem

 

Self-esteem is how we feel about our self or our abilities and our worth. If one consistently feels okay or comfortable with who one is, or “feels enough,” on a daily basis and in different situations, he has high self-esteem. How can each of us have stable High Self-Esteem?

Live consciously – With self-awareness, we can be in tune with who we are – our likes, dislikes, needs, wants, strengths, weaknesses, accomplishments, beliefs and values.

Evaluate yourself honestly -When are honest with ourselves about who we are, we project our true and best self, not a false sense of self. Thus, we gain respect, which increases our self-respect.

Acknowledge your accomplishments – To recognize your accomplishments allows you to identify strengths that you can verify. Therefore, you know you own them, for they helped you achieve these successes.  You feel capable. Hence, you feel enough.

Accept yourself – We want to accept ourselves just as we are — our strengths and weaknesses. If we do not accept our flaws, we are rejecting ourselves and setting ourselves up to make mistakes. If we do not acknowledge our flaws, how will we know how to improve ourselves to become the person we want to be?

Live with Integrity – This is being true to ourselves, following our heart and honoring our values. It is doing what is right. Each of us has a conscious. When we follow it, we have no regrets and guilt. Maintaining respect for oneself, naturally, affects how one feels about oneself.

Live in the Present –The past is gone; we can not undo it. We want to focus our attention on what we are doing right or good now. We want to use mistakes to make better choices to prevent mistakes in the future.

Give Yourself Positive Feedback – We want to reaffirm ourselves based on our accomplishments — our strengths, abilities and qualities, and the good in our lives.

Set Goals – We want to set goals based on our strengths. When we do, we know we have a better chance of success. Therefore we walk with confidence and thus experience less stress.

Take positive action – We want to use assertive behavior to meet our needs and wants, reach our goals, live by our values, and stand up for our rights.

When we find our best self and live with it or project it on a regular basis, we feel good about ourselves. Therefore, we feel in charge of our lives.

Related resources:

Books:  Choose to Have Self High Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                             Rise Up to Yourself Greater Success Awaits   https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                         Achieve Success with Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/

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7 Ways to Love Yourself

Self-love is giving kindness, understanding, and encouragement to oneself and showing concern for oneself. It is giving yourself unconditional positive regard. Then to love yourself you want to:

Give Yourself Positive Feedback – The things we say to ourselves affects how we feel about ourselves. Self-talk determines whether we take action to pursue our goals or handle situations to take care of ourselves. To have positive self-talk requires that we make a conscious choice to do so.

Appreciate Your Strengths – Each of us has strengths, skills, talents and abilities. Identify and acknowledge them for they make you who you are. They differentiate you from anyone else and make you unique. Thus they give you value and help you find your purpose in life.

Forgive Yourself – Doing so helps us to move forward to achieve our goals and build a future. Staying stuck in the past is a waste of time and energy. It is gone and we cannot bring it back.

Stand Up for Yourself – Each of us has certain rights. When we speak up for ourselves, we are protecting ourselves or our interest and our integrity.

Meet Your Needs – Know when saying “Yes” and saying “No” meets your needs. Know when and how to say “Yes” and “No” to yourself and others to meet your needs.  Certainly, you want to say no to avoid becoming a victim.

Let Go of Perfectionism – No one is perfect. We are human beings. Acknowledging this helps us to forgive ourselves

Live by your values – When we do, we set priorities and make choices and decisions accordingly.  Doing so is being true to who you are and honoring who you are.

When you choose to apply these to your life, notice how you feel about yourself. When will you decide?

Related resources:

Books:  Choose to Have Self High Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                             Rise Up to Yourself Greater Success Awaits   https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                         Achieve Success with Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/

Self-esteem and Success Tips and Quotes: https://www.facebook.com/DorothyWehuntLifeCoachandAuthor/   https://twitter.com/dorothywehunt

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Gain Success with Self-Discipline

“One of the most important keys to success is having the discipline to do what you know you should do, even when you don’t feel like doing it.” Unknown

In what situation or area of your life do you want or need more self-discipline? Do you have an action you need to take for your business? Maybe you need to make five sales calls a day to reach your career goal or posts five times a day on social media to attract new followers to gain potential clients.  On the other hand, is there a personal goal you would like to achieve, such as losing five pounds, reading one book every month or saving money for a house or your future?

Self-discipline helps us to begin tasks to finish them on time. Performing a task on time prevents us from worrying about doing it at the last minute and doing it well and thus reduces stress. Self-discipline puts us in control of our emotions and ourselves and thus in charge of our lives. Therefore, self-discipline gives us the gift of freedom.  

Then, how do we get ourselves to do the things we need to do to reach our goal to achieve our desired success? In high school, did you try out for cheerleading, despite any associated fear or anxiety of losing and feeling embarrassed, so that you could belong or receive recognition?  Possibly, you worked to achieve good grades to belong to the honor society or to feel proud of yourself for the accomplishment. Did you ever take a particular class that you did not want to take in high school because it was a prerequisite to attend college or for your career major for greater accomplishment and success?

Similarly, in the work environment, have you ever volunteered to work on a project or on the weekend to gain respect and thus influence? Maybe you played volleyball, golf, or baseball at work for the same reasons?

If you made one of the above choices or a similar one, did you sacrifice doing something that would have been more fun? Perhaps, you sacrificed spending time with friends or family.  If you did, the benefit you were going to receive caused you to view your choice to say NO not as self-denial.

Have you heard it said that we have self-discipline when we want to do something or when doing something makes us feel good about ourselves? Abraham Joshua Heschel said, “Self-respect is the root of discipline. The sense of dignity grows with the ability to say No to oneself.”   

Then, to have the self-discipline to choose to do what you need to do, you want to ask yourself, “If I say No to this, how will I say “Yes” to myself? How would saying No to this help me to feel proud, have greater confidence and live with dignity?”

Related resources:

Books:  Choose to Have Self High Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                             Rise Up to Yourself Greater Success Awaits   https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                         Achieve Success with Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/

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Want to Live in the Present and Increase Your Self-Esteem and Gain Success

Presence is a catalyst for task accomplishment and creating success. When we live in the present, we give our full attention to and engage in what is going on in the now. Doing so promotes task or goal achievement and successful outcomes. Each time we complete a task, we gain confidence in our capability and thus in our ability to reach our goals. We like ourselves. To create greater success, we want to take a closer look at the relationship between presence and our success and self-esteem. 

When we focus on the job that needs doing, we know what it involves. We know what we need to do first to complete the task and to do so successfully. Some tasks require doing the steps of the task sequentially for successful completion. For example, using a recipe to make a cake from scratch usually has directions that call for specific ingredients and adding them in a certain sequence since doing so affects the outcome of the cake most of the time. On the other hand, if a task does not require a step-by-step process for completing it, some people perform the part of the task they consider the easiest to do first. Some other people do the difficult part of the task first to get it out of the way. Thus, we know how to begin, and we start.

However, if a person focuses on future challenges that might occur along the way, what ifs or what could go wrong, the person hinders, and possibly keeps, her or himself from beginning the task. The same is true if a person worries about the outcome or end results. If one does, one undermines one’s confidence and task or goal achievement and thus success.

When we fully engage in the step of the task at hand, we are less likely to make mistakes. We accomplish the task successfully and say to ourselves “Yes” or “Good job.” Thus, we feel capable of performing the next step in the task. Each step we complete leads to the next step. With the successful completion of each step, the more capable and confident we feel. Therefore, our self-esteem grows.

In addition, presence helps us to know how to contribute to a conversation or work discussion or how to introduce our ideas to have them considered. When we give our attention to what others say, verbally and nonverbally, not what we want to say, we are better able to understand the beliefs a person holds and the intensity of the belief or conviction. How receptive or whether others are receptive to what we have to say depends on the strength of their conviction. Therefore, we know if we want to share our viewpoint or idea and how to share it to have it better understood. The more we can present our viewpoint or idea from their frame of reference the more likely we will have it considered and the less conflict we will incur. The earlier we have this awareness the better. Thus, presence helps us to communicate effectively to gain influence and build relationships.

If you want to complete tasks successfully with ease and communicate to gain influence to experience greater success, you want to practice living in the moment beginning today. If you do, you will also experience greater self-esteem.

Related resources:

Books:  Choose to Have Self High Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                             Rise Up to Yourself Greater Success Awaits   https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/                         Achieve Success with Self-Esteem  https://lifecoachwehunt.com/e-books-4/

Self-esteem and Success Tips and Quotes: https://www.facebook.com/DorothyWehuntLifeCoachandAuthor/   https://twitter.com/dorothywehunt

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