How to Conquer Fear of the Unknown


Does uncertainty in life cause you to ask yourself, “Will I be able to handle or cope with this?” and undermine your self-esteem, confidence and thus your success?

Uncertainty is part of life. Worrying about what can or will happen will not prevent something from happening. So how do we overcome the fear of the unknown?

• Take control of your emotions. – Come from a place of power rather than from a victim state of helplessness and hopelessness.

• Be Proactive. – Ask yourself, “What can I do? What options do I have?” Doing what one can do allows one to be able to let go of feeling helpless. Taking action that is under one’s control, that one is able to do, helps one to feel confident and capable.

• Give yourself positive self-talk. – Develop statements around what you can do and create new self-talk to move forward. Doing so is focusing on the known. Doing what you know you can do, the known, builds confidence. It gives hope helping to reduce feelings of helplessness.

• Set goals. – You want to set goals each day and focus on taking the needed action to achieve them. When we are busy being productive, our mind does not have time to worry.

• Forgive your mistakes. – If something does not work out, look at what you did right and what you can learn to have success. Do not beat up on yourself. Everyone makes mistakes at one time or another.

Overcome uncertainty and build the self-esteem and confidence to gain your desired success.

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019.

Achieve Your Goals with High Self-Esteem

People who have high self-esteem feel they have value. Thus, they feel they are worthy and deserving of the best life has to offer. Because they believe in their strengths and abilities, they set goals based on them. Thus, they feel capable and confident. They trust themselves to reach their goals.

Because they feel worthy, they make themselves as important as another. They say “Yes” and “No” to say YES to themselves. Thus, they ask for what they want and are willing to take right action to reach their goal. They take calculated risks to reach their goals.

Since they feel deserving, they acknowledge small and big successes. They give themselves positive self-statements to stay motivated and confident. When a person feels confident, he feels capable. Thus, he tackles difficult tasks to reach his goal.

By choosing to live with awareness, they know their areas of potential. Thus, they know how to be their best self and to achieve greater success. Because they believe in their strengths and abilities, they believe they can learn new things. They are willing to act to improve their skills and overcome limitations to reach goals.

People who have healthy self-esteem choose to resolve their own challenges and problems. When a person lets another person rescue him, she or he sets himself up to become a victim.

They focus on what they can influence or change for the better, not the things they have no real control over. They look for workable strategies and solutions. Doing so creates a positive energy that acts as a catalyst for greater personal power and action. Thus, their concerns lose their power or disappear. Hence, they take right action to achieve their goals. At the same time, their belief in their skills makes others other believe in them and their abilities. They gain respect from others and thus greater self-respect.

In addition, they take control of their emotions. Thus, they respond rather than react to situations, which helps them to gain influence. They affirm themselves to avoid internalizing negatives. In doing so, they reduce or prevent conflict and thus manage stress and protect their dignity.

Then, people with self-esteem know how to use their strengths and abilities. They know how to contribute to the betterment of society and to be part of the world. Thus, they make themselves important to society and the world.


©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019. 

Apply these 8 Steps and Gain Peace of Mind


When we have peace of mind, we are not in an adversarial relationship with our lives and ourselves. When we can know and feel we can handle our daily life free of anxiety, we are confident. Thus, we like and respect ourselves.
Here are the steps that lead to peace of mind:
Focus on  Your Goals – Begin your day by focusing on your goals. Choose to take the positive actions that will bring you closer to your goal.
Live in the Present – If you give your attention to doing your best,  you make today the best day ever.  Generate positive thoughts and put images of the past behind you. After doing this daily for a period-of-time, the past remains there.
Release Negative Self-talk- Reframe a self-defeating thought with a self-promoting thought.  Choose thoughts that help you feel worthy, deserving, appreciative, capable, and happy.
Assert Yourself – Approach your goals with an energetic, enthusiastic boldness and determination. Yet, avoid being  confrontational and belligerent. To be assertive, you meet your needs while respecting the rights and needs of others.  The intent of assertiveness is to lead to a win-win.  Assertiveness does not step on the toes of others to meet one’s needs.
Overcome Indecision – Set goals based on your previous successes. When you  do,  you believe in your abilities.  You have references.  Thus, you feel capable and confident. You trust your abilities to achieve success. Thus, you decide to act to reach your goals.
Forgive yourself – To do so, let go of feelings of inferiority.  This means you forgive your mistakes.  You want to forgive on a daily basis. Doing so allows you to let go of daily irritation.   Feeling irritated on a continuous basis becomes self-destructive.  When you forgive yourself for past thoughts, actions, and mistakes, you live in the present.
Let Go of Doubt – Acknowledge your past successes.  Identify the strengths and abilities that helped you to achieve them. When you do, you know that you own your strengths. Thus, you believe in your abilities and yourself.
Accept What Is – Focus on what you can control. If something does not work out, look at what you can do to make it better.
To have peace of mind, make the decision now to take the needed action that will give it to you.


©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019


Many people feel comfortable in some situations and uncomfortable in others. Do you feel good about yourself wherever you are and with whomever you come in contact? Or are there some situations where you wish you felt more confident? If your answer to the latter is yes, you want to read ‘Why Choose High Self-Esteem,’ the first chapter of my book, Choose to Have High Self-Esteem.

This chapter on ‘Why Choose High Self-Esteem’  explains why self-esteem is important to all areas of one’s life. In addition, the references and explanation given help people to see that having healthy self-esteem is good . Thus, they choose to make the decision to gain greater self-esteem.

Personal and Professional Benefits-Here are some authorities who cite the benefits of having self-esteem.  Norman Vincent Peale points out that self-esteem is the secret to success.   Robert Collier explains how it influences the degree of success.  Also, Clement Stone speaks of self-esteem in the role of communication.  Then, Bonaro Overstreet addresses its value in conflict.  In addition, Nathaniel Branden and Les Giblins speak to how self-esteem affects one’s success.  Finally, Sidney Simon is specific in how it affects one’s well-being.

Besides, Joyce Brothers points out its importance to performance. ‘Why Choose to High Self-Esteem’ gives examples to illustrate this point.  These examples will help you to assess or identify ways it can help you to gain greater success.

Benefits illustrated ‘Why Choose High Self-Esteem’ discusses how people with high self-esteem feel about themselves and function. It gives many examples to illustrate this.  Some are entering the work force, pursuing a dream or goal(s), performing a task and making decisions. Too, it discusses how self-esteem helps one to take care of oneself and protect one’s esteem and dignity. Moreover, it describes how it affects interaction in both one’s personal and professional life.

If you would like greater self-esteem and success, you want to click here find out how to get your copy of this book.


©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019 

“Rise Up to Yourself”


When you were a child growing up, did your mother or father wake you up by gently shaking you and saying, “Rise up and Shine.”? If so, you probably knew that meant to pay attention to your teacher today, make good grades, and don’t get in trouble. So, you learned it meant, “Do your best.”

“Rise Up to Yourself,” the first chapter in my book, Rise Up to Yourself, Greater Success Awaits tells how being your best self includes or involves more than just using your training in a subject to do your job. Second, it describes how developing and using soft skills will help you to be your best self and thus enhance your self-esteem, your personal and professional success and your life. Third, it tells you what you want to look for as you read each chapter so you can apply the information on a daily basis to feel good about yourself and to achieve your desired success.

I wrote this book because I, like many others I have met in life, wished I had been aware of these non-technical skills and their importance and power and/or how to use them effectively earlier I life. Doing so, I feel, would have helped me to avoid some mistakes and achieve more or greater in life.

If you would like to have gain greater self-esteem, confidence and success, you want to click here..


©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019

Empower Yourself with Self Talk

What are you telling yourself right now? Our self-talk, verbally or silently, empowers or disempowers us and thus builds or undermines one’s self-esteem and self-confidence.  How does it do that? It determines our:

Feelings – What we tell ourselves, about daily situations influence how we feel — sad or happy, worried or anxious, frustrated, or fearful.  The thoughts we hold about our value as a person affect whether we feel we are worthy or worthwhile and deserving.

Belief in our abilities – How we choose to view our accomplishments determines how successful we feel. If we think our strengths can benefit us, we feel capable. Thus, we “feel enough.”

Decision-making and choices – The way we define ourselves depends upon who or what we think we are. What we think or believe about our abilities determines whether or not we make the decision to set and pursue goals and what goal(s) we decide to set and action(s) we choose to take. Whether we decide to forgive our mistakes depends on whether we live in the present and focus our thoughts on our successes, what we did right or what worked out, and our goals.

Motivation – If we give ourselves encouraging and positive messages about our strengths and abilities that cause us to believe in our abilities and thus ourselves, we feel inspired to take action.

Assertion – When we feel worthwhile, we feel we deserve success. When we believe in our abilities, we trust ourselves to pursue our goals. We have developed an “I can” attitude. Thus, we take action to meet our goals.

Risk-taking – Challenges often occur that require us to do something differently if we want to reach our goal to achieve our desired success. If we feel deserving of success and believe in our strengths, we trust them to overcome the challenges to reach our goal and gain success.

If you want greater self-esteem and self-confidence, you want to decide to choose the thoughts that you need to think on a daily basis to do so.

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019 

How to Overcome Fear of Failure

Many people allow fear of failure to keep them from their dream. Limiting self-talk around situations where they did not receive their desired results and negative feedback from others led to the fear of failure. How can one let go of fear of failure?

Choose Success – Make a conscious decision to set goals for the self-satisfaction of reaching them, not for just a paycheck. Doing so gives you a greater buy in for achieving success. You become committed to the goal achievement.

Find Your Uniqueness – When you realize your uniqueness — what qualities or traits, strengths, talents, skills and abilities that make up who you are — you know your value. You believe in yourself and believe you can achieve success.

Improve Your Handicap – What weakness is the greatest contributing factor to the fear of failure? Alternatively, what undeveloped area, if developed, would help you increase your chance of success and do so with the least resistance, and thus overcome fear of failure.? Developing new qualities and skills will help you to feel more capable and thus more confident to act to achieve success.

Forgive Your Mistakes – Remember, everyone makes mistakes. What did you learn from the mistake that can become a building block for success? Certainly, you want to give yourself credit for what you did that worked.

Create New Self-talk – Develop positive statements around your strengths, what you learned and what you did that worked and affirm yourself. To know and affirm your strengths is to own them which allows you to believe you can achieve success. Therefore, you let go of fear of failure.

Make Success a Habit – Set daily goals, and do what you need to do to reach them. In doing so, you develop a habit of setting and attaining goals — achieving success. Acknowledging successes increases self-confidence, which inspires you to set other goals and to take action to attain more or greater success

Love yourself enough to overcome fear of failure, and you will increase your self-confidence and gain success and greater self-respect.

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019 

4 Ways to Live with Integrity

Integrity is an essential ingredient for self-esteem. Here are four ways to live with integrity and maintain your self-respect.

Know your truth – Be honest with yourself about who you are — your strengths and weaknesses. This calls upon you to evaluate who you are sincerely and objectively. To do this, let go of the need to be perfect and give yourself credit for your successes, strengths, skills, talents, and abilities.

Admit mistakes – Admitting mistakes and correcting them if possible builds integrity with others. Certainly, you want to admit the mistake to the right person. Moreover, admitting a mistake is not living in denial. Thus,  it builds self-integrity. Once you admit a mistake, you want to forgive yourself to let go of any guilt because each of us has the right to live a peaceful life and to love ourselves.

Be true to yourself – Set goals around your strengths and abilities, not those of others. You project your true self and gain respect, which increase your self-respect. Moreover, setting goals around your strengths and abilities will inspire you to pursue your goals, to express your strengths, and to overcome challenges to meet your goals, which builds self-integrity and thus self-respect.

Do your best – Setting high standards is essential for us to do our best. Having high standards inspires you and gives you the guidance to do so. Pursuing high standards, even when no one is watching, is living with the integrity to respect yourself.

Therefore, to live with integrity to respect yourself and build self-esteem, you must decide to make the choices and take the actions necessary to live with integrity.

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019.

How to Have Stable High Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is how we feel about our self or our abilities and our worth. If one consistently feels okay or comfortable with who one is, or “feels enough,” on a daily basis and in different situations, he has high self-esteem. How can each of us have stable High Self-Esteem?

Live consciously – With self-awareness, we can be in tune with who we are – our likes, dislikes, needs, wants, strengths, weaknesses, accomplishments, beliefs and values.

Evaluate yourself honestly -When are honest with ourselves about who we are, we project our true and best self, not a false sense of self. Thus, we gain respect, which increases our self-respect.

Acknowledge your accomplishments – To recognize your accomplishments allows you to identify strengths that you can verify. Therefore, you know you own them, for they helped you achieve these successes.  You feel capable. Hence, you feel enough.

Accept yourself – We want to accept ourselves just as we are — our strengths and weaknesses. If we do not accept our flaws, we are rejecting ourselves and setting ourselves up to make mistakes. If we do not acknowledge our flaws, how will we know how to improve ourselves to become the person we want to be?

Live with Integrity – This is being true to ourselves, following our heart and honoring our values. It is doing what is right. Each of us has a conscious. When we follow it, we have no regrets and guilt. Maintaining respect for oneself, naturally, affects how one feels about oneself.

Live in the Present –The past is gone; we can not undo it. We want to focus our attention on what we are doing right or good now. We want to use mistakes to make better choices to prevent mistakes in the future.

Give Yourself Positive Feedback – We want to reaffirm ourselves based on our accomplishments — our strengths, abilities and qualities, and the good in our lives.

Set Goals – We want to set goals based on our strengths. When we do, we know we have a better chance of success. Therefore we walk with confidence and thus experience less stress.

Take positive action – We want to use assertive behavior to meet our needs and wants, reach our goals, live by our values, and stand up for our rights.

When we find our best self and live with it or project it on a regular basis, we feel good about ourselves. Therefore, we feel in charge of our lives.

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019. 

7 Ways to Love Yourself

Self-love is giving kindness, understanding, and encouragement to oneself and showing concern for oneself. It is giving yourself unconditional positive regard. Then to love yourself you want to:

Give Yourself Positive Feedback – The things we say to ourselves affects how we feel about ourselves. Self-talk determines whether we take action to pursue our goals or handle situations to take care of ourselves. To have positive self-talk requires that we make a conscious choice to do so.

Appreciate Your Strengths – Each of us has strengths, skills, talents and abilities. Identify and acknowledge them for they make you who you are. They differentiate you from anyone else and make you unique. Thus they give you value and help you find your purpose in life.

Forgive Yourself – Doing so helps us to move forward to achieve our goals and build a future. Staying stuck in the past is a waste of time and energy. It is gone and we cannot bring it back.

Stand Up for Yourself – Each of us has certain rights. When we speak up for ourselves, we are protecting ourselves or our interest and our integrity.

Meet Your Needs – Know when saying “Yes” and saying “No” meets your needs. Know when and how to say “Yes” and “No” to yourself and others to meet your needs.  Certainly, you want to say no to avoid becoming a victim.

Let Go of Perfectionism – No one is perfect. We are human beings. Acknowledging this helps us to forgive ourselves

Live by your values – When we do, we set priorities and make choices and decisions accordingly.  Doing so is being true to who you are and honoring who you are.

When you choose to apply these to your life, notice how you feel about yourself. When will you decide?

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019.