How to Have Stable High Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is how we feel about our self or our abilities and our worth. If one consistently feels okay or comfortable with who one is, or “feels enough,” on a daily basis and in different situations, he has high self-esteem. How can each of us have stable High Self-Esteem?

Live consciously – With self-awareness, we can be in tune with who we are – our likes, dislikes, needs, wants, strengths, weaknesses, accomplishments, beliefs and values.

Evaluate yourself honestly -When are honest with ourselves about who we are, we project our true and best self, not a false sense of self. Thus, we gain respect, which increases our self-respect.

Acknowledge your accomplishments – To recognize your accomplishments allows you to identify strengths that you can verify. Therefore, you know you own them, for they helped you achieve these successes.  You feel capable. Hence, you feel enough.

Accept yourself – We want to accept ourselves just as we are — our strengths and weaknesses. If we do not accept our flaws, we are rejecting ourselves and setting ourselves up to make mistakes. If we do not acknowledge our flaws, how will we know how to improve ourselves to become the person we want to be?

Live with Integrity – This is being true to ourselves, following our heart and honoring our values. It is doing what is right. Each of us has a conscious. When we follow it, we have no regrets and guilt. Maintaining respect for oneself, naturally, affects how one feels about oneself.

Live in the Present –The past is gone; we can not undo it. We want to focus our attention on what we are doing right or good now. We want to use mistakes to make better choices to prevent mistakes in the future.

Give Yourself Positive Feedback – We want to reaffirm ourselves based on our accomplishments — our strengths, abilities and qualities, and the good in our lives.

Set Goals – We want to set goals based on our strengths. When we do, we know we have a better chance of success. Therefore we walk with confidence and thus experience less stress.

Take positive action – We want to use assertive behavior to meet our needs and wants, reach our goals, live by our values, and stand up for our rights.

When we find our best self and live with it or project it on a regular basis, we feel good about ourselves. Therefore, we feel in charge of our lives.

©Dorothy Wehunt and 2019.